dont know what to do

[kuch95]

So my girlfriend or whatever is have a baby due April 11 and I was just told today she wishes her ex was the dad an she should of just had a baby with him what do I do

[nursegirl6572]

I'm sorry you're going through this.  The relationship sounds very one sided, with you being the only one invested in it.  Just remember that YOU are the one who sets the bar as far as how you expect others to treat you, and some things just aren't acceptable to put up with.  I don't care if she's hormonal or not, saying what she said is just mean and a low blow.  

I would focus your energy on preparing for the baby, you'll have to co-parent with her in the interest of the baby, but I'm not sure I would recommend continuing to try to have a relationship with her.

I also agree that a DNA test is a must after the baby is born.

Best of luck to you, good for you for being responsible and honoring your obligations.  Wish everyone was like that!

[Nellyzz]

lol I say mean stuff im guilty lol but 2seconds later im all over him apologising cos I know what I said was bad. :p that's pretty sad u dont get a thank you! I thank my man for passing me the tv remote lol I dont know every girls different. :)

[kuch95]

Your right why do I stick around I deserve so much better I'm honestly probably the best boyfriend out there always there for her always running around to get her things she wants just to make her happy and I don't even get a thank you :( let me ask you this are you still with your bf and do you guys say mean things to each other?

[Nellyzz]

woman say hurtful things but to say she wishes it is her exs baby that's pretty sad dude!! did she apologise at all?? we know what we do we know what we say we cant control when or what we say due to hormones! but if shes treating u bad why do u stick around? staying with someone for a baby hardly ever works out!

[chellew89]

I think some women take their hormones to a whole other level. For her to say that to you is uncalled for. If her ex was so great why didn't she have a kid with him? Why did they break up? From my point of view going by what you say she already has a great dad for her baby. Most men run away when they get someone pregnant. The fact that it hurts you means you sincerly care. If it does get too much I agree with babyg92. Tell her you if the child is yours you will be there for the child only.

[elyandpeanut]

Faithful woman, especially when they're in love would never say things like that no matter how mad or upset. Either she's cheating or doesn't love you. I'm sorry if it sounds harsh but that's my opinion. I could never hurt someone i love like that.

[kuch95]

That what I was thinking of doing I can't talked the stress yes I know your girls have hormones but some of the **** she says to me is so unnecessary I'm hurt at the most my hearts breaking that baby better be mine because I'm already attached I love my baby girl

[chellew89]

It seems like there is something going on between her and her ex. I would NEVER tell my bf I wish I had a baby with my ex instead. Thats horrible if you ask me. I get we are hormonal but that's just plain mean. I would deffinatly get a dna test done if I were you.

[kuch95]

Thank you she talks to him all the time idk what to do I try and do everything right but I guess I suck

[Babyg92]

have her do a DNA test. you have to understand she's pregnant right now so she's hormonal and can't help herself. BUt if she's telling you things like that i would get a DNA test to be sure you know? good luck!

[kuch95]

We are all ways on an off that's why I put it like that I'm sorry