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past relationship - anxiety
I have been in a relationship for almost 3 years now and i love my boyfriend a lot. before being in this relationship, i was in a relationship with someone else ... it was a long distance relationship... i had just seen him once... after a while in the relationship i realized that the guy wasnt smart and neither was he attractive, he wasnt capable of making his own decisions and he would rather take his friends advice then do what he thought was right... i called the relationship off as i was losing feelings but he was the first guy ever that i went out with so i felt bad and gave it another chance... but eventually my family found out and i ended the relationship... although i was losing feelings for him and i know that i made the right choice... i keep asking myself "what if" i made that choice only because of my family... but at the same time i know that i wasnt willing to be in that relationship... and this drives me towards so much anxiety... i spend so much time thinking about my past that it frustrates and angers me... i am happy with my relationship right now... i dont know how to make those thoughts go away... sometimes i feel like it would have been better if i called it off on my decision and not by some one elses influence... but i wasnt brave enough... i guess because it was my first relationship... but i did not want to compromise with my life.. and i am happy that i did not... but i still keep going back to my past and it is interfering with my present...
If you feel you were influenced in your decision about your first boyfriend, just sit down for a bit and write a list of pros and cons for the time back then. Just your own thoughts.
If it is mostly negative, keep that note somewhere as a reminder and move on and enjoy the as it seems much better relationship you have now. If the list is all positive, then heck, get back with him. At the least it will enable you to realize your priorities for your life now and once you do, never look back.
If it is mostly negative, keep that note somewhere as a reminder and move on and enjoy the as it seems much better relationship you have now. If the list is all positive, then heck, get back with him. At the least it will enable you to realize your priorities for your life now and once you do, never look back.
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