someone tell me...

[zunino_b]

If i have a boyfriend and he doesnt want me talking to the babys father but the babys father texted me today asking how i been but it has since been since march since he last talked to me so i am wondering why he wants to know anything now.

[zunino_b]

Thank you for the help. I just wish he would understand it

[specialmom]

So I guess I could have just said I agree w nursegirl. :))))

[specialmom]

Hi.  We'll. it's tough in these situations because you are forever bound to the bd.  I guess you can make it ear w bd that you just are interested in him having a relationship w your child. It's best to stay friendly w him w boundaries.  Your current boyfriend has to understand that the bio dad and child relationship is important.  You just have to reassure your boyfriend it's about the baby and not you. Best of luck!!

[TTinKKerBBell]

Ditto NurseGirl !!

[nursegirl6572]

I find it so sad that the girlfriend and your BF feel that they have the right to tell you (and him) not to contact each other.  You have a CHILD together, so you will ALWAYS be connected, forever. The sooner the two of them accept that, the better.  

It's in the child's best interest for you two to co-parent the best you can, and even though he maybe hasn't done a great job until now being a Dad, I would encourage you to foster and nurture that relationship.  It's a win-win for your daughter if she gets to have both parents as active participants and role models in her life.

I would be firm with your BF and tell him that you will continue to communicate with him about your daughter, and that you would appreciate him being supportive of that.  Obviously, if there are any inappropriate communications going on between you and the baby's father, then that IS an issue.  If that's where he's coming from, then his demands make more sense.  If that's the case, you BOTH need to get very serious about making your communications about your daughter and your daughter only.

Hopefully he will have the same discussion with his girlfriend.  Jealousy has no place in a situation where two people are trying to co-parent.  Best of luck to you all!

[zunino_b]

That is how i been feeling all day long

[zunino_b]

When i found out back in February that he was going to be a dad i told him that he can be in the babys life and mine if he stopped drinking like he was and he took off for a month and then tried to start talking to me about the baby but his girlfriend got upset and told him that i needed to stop texting him but i would only tell how the baby was growing and i got to tell him that he was having a baby girl before he stopped calling me

[Rachelrenecloyd]

I feel if the father is trying to make the effort, let him(: not for yourself but for your child. I'm sure they'll appreciate when they get older. Some father don't take the time to get to know their child. But if he's trying it's best to find some kind of co parent work out for the baby's best interest (:

[jordyvi0824]

I think if the BD says they don't want to be there and leaves then screw him and that's his last chance! Especially if someone like your current steps up and is willing to be there for you and your child! If he left once he'll most likely leave again

[Chase627]

Maybe he realized he wants to be in the babies life. I think if the father actually tries being a good father he should be in the babies life. If he a piece of sht then u dont need him around. But being there for the baby doesnt mean he needs to be with u.