Advise really needed please ? :( x

[Gabbiejayyxo]

I'm 13 and my boyfriend is now 16. I have a very over protcive mum after a few things that have happened over the years..she ain't been too happy I've been with him because of the age gap. Just recantly there's been allot of drama between me and my cousin and he started to bully her..my mum has not been at all happy with this and I understand why she wouldn't be and ssa concindering not letting me see him anymore :'( I can't lose him as he's been a great help to me mentally..is there any way I can convise her to let me see and stay with him? Also how can I get the trust to see him more then every other week? As he's left school now :3x

[Chima7]

I don't understand what you mean that he's not an ordinary 16 yr old boy. In what way? And why does that even matter? The courts only see his age and don't care about hid personality, so if you think that's going to save him from going to prison, you're completely wrong. You're going to get him into huge trouble and you don't even seem to care. That's too bad for him that he saddled himself with someone so selfish.

[specialmom]

Sweetie, 16 is 16.  There really are no different types.  If you are saying he is really immature and more like a 13 year old, that doesn't hold up in court.  

Listen to your mom, study hard and don't get so wrapped up in drama and guys at your age.  good luck

[Gabbiejayyxo]

Hmm..but he's not really a ordinary 16 year old boy so idk lol :/ x

[gabriellakd]

Your 13. Your still a baby. This guy won't be around for much longer I promise you your still young. Enjoy ur life play with ur barbies and read books boys is something u shouldn't be worrying about.

[Chima7]

You don't want him to get arrested, do you? If I was 13 and liked a boy who was 16, I'd never in a million years insist on being with him because the last thing I would ever want to do is get him in trouble with the law. I would not be that selfish to expect him to put himself at risk of being arrested just so I could be with him. I would wait until I was not an age that could get him arrested because it's so completely unfair for you to put him in such a dangerous position that could ruin his entire future for you. If he was smart he would realize it was not worth it and break it off before he got in trouble. But since he dropped out of school and bullies other people, he is clearly not that bright and probably doesn't understand how serious it is of he got arrested for being with you. Do you want to be responsible for him throwing away his future by ending up in prison over you? I realize you're only 13 but you must have some common sense that you wouldn't want him to end up that way.

[Londres70]

Dear, this is NO one for you.  

Sounds like you are from the UK.  I am guessing that based on your terminology, i.e. mum.  It is not legal for a 13 year girl to be involved with a 16 year old guy there, so your mother is correct in forbidding you to see this guy.  She responsible for you and what happens to you as you are still considered a minor.  So, if you want your mother to let you continue this relationship she would be breaking the law.

Secondly, do you really want a guy who bullies others and is not attending school?  

Thirdly, I do not see anything wrong with the occasional guy crushes @ 13, but you are definitely too young for a bf/gf relationship.

[Gabbiejayyxo]

Thank you both

[specialmom]

It's hard to be your age and understand that your mother knows much more than you do and is best at guiding you.  I would listen to your mother and avoid drama at all costs.  Your mom sounds like a responsible parent and I hope you do in the end, follow her wishes.  good luck

[Life360_Dave]

Hi, sorry about your situation. Im not sure about the legal age in your country but here in the U.S. the boy 16  could be arrested for dating a girl 13.
If you care about him you might consider any consequenses that he might encounter.