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my childhood and high school sweetheart proposed to me. we keep having to push it back because of his job. he tells me he wants to marry me he tells all of his coworkers and friends im his wife. but when i ask him to help me plan some of it he wont and when i find somewhere he gets mad and tells me he doesnt want to get married there but he wont help me find a place to have it.. are these any signs of he just isnt ready for me to take his last name?.
I was reading the situation similiar to SM.
Something else is going on in my opinion.
Something else is going on in my opinion.
I'm with the others in being a little confused here.
On the one hand, I think weddings in general right now are way, way off the deep end. I really can NOT believe the effort and work people are putting into the ceremony, invitations, decorations, photography, etc. It kind of gives me a little panic feeling thinking of helping with my son's weddings. Yee gads.
Is that what he's reacting to, do you think? If he's already claiming he's married to his co-workers, I'm not thinking he's necessarily afraid of commitment.
I think you really need to get to the bottom of this, and ask very bluntly what's going on - but in a calm voice, at a time when each of you is open to listening to the viewpoint of the other.
On the one hand, I think weddings in general right now are way, way off the deep end. I really can NOT believe the effort and work people are putting into the ceremony, invitations, decorations, photography, etc. It kind of gives me a little panic feeling thinking of helping with my son's weddings. Yee gads.
Is that what he's reacting to, do you think? If he's already claiming he's married to his co-workers, I'm not thinking he's necessarily afraid of commitment.
I think you really need to get to the bottom of this, and ask very bluntly what's going on - but in a calm voice, at a time when each of you is open to listening to the viewpoint of the other.
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Hm. I read this completely differently. When SHE does plan something, he gets upset and says NO.
A huge question, is there a date? Do you have a date agreed upon by him that this is going to happen?
I think something more is going on to be honest.
PS: My husband was by far more the girl in our relationship and while I wanted to either elope or have a small affair, we had a traditional big wedding on his insitance. He was very much part of the planning. And that was the case with most of my girlfriend's husbands to be honest. Sure, things like flowers they could care less but they wanted to be part of picking the venue and choosing what to serve for food and drink. And DJ, men often love getting invovled in dj's or bands.
A huge question, is there a date? Do you have a date agreed upon by him that this is going to happen?
I think something more is going on to be honest.
PS: My husband was by far more the girl in our relationship and while I wanted to either elope or have a small affair, we had a traditional big wedding on his insitance. He was very much part of the planning. And that was the case with most of my girlfriend's husbands to be honest. Sure, things like flowers they could care less but they wanted to be part of picking the venue and choosing what to serve for food and drink. And DJ, men often love getting invovled in dj's or bands.
I don't think guys are very realistic when it comes to planning a wedding. I'm pretty sure my wife felt the same way. I proposed and she almost immediately went into planning mode (at least that's how I remember it).
There eventually came a time where she had to say, "I need your opinion on a few things", so we sat down and started going over things. She wanted my approval for colors, styles, invitations, the reception, the food, the cake.... it is a bit much for a guy to fathom.
There eventually came a time where she had to say, "I need your opinion on a few things", so we sat down and started going over things. She wanted my approval for colors, styles, invitations, the reception, the food, the cake.... it is a bit much for a guy to fathom.
What's going on with his job to make you postpone the wedding?
I would say the planning per se isn't usually a "man's" thing, however, not only isn't he wanting to help with the planning he isn't liking what you are doing in regards to the planning, i.e. he isn't liking the places you are finding.
How old is he? I see you are very young; 19.
I would say the planning per se isn't usually a "man's" thing, however, not only isn't he wanting to help with the planning he isn't liking what you are doing in regards to the planning, i.e. he isn't liking the places you are finding.
How old is he? I see you are very young; 19.
From a male perspective, most men hate shopping, planning and cooking. and will even get aggitated when asked, as in a way you are supposed to know these things about us. Very normal. An when you to get married and buy a house, it will the same then with yard work. I think your better off planning it yourself with your family and friends. What he comes up with most likely you wont like anyway.
good luck and congrats
good luck and congrats
Sounds more like he just doesn't really want involved in the actual "planning" of the big day, maybe? Do you have family or friends that are helping you with some opf the planning?
Maybe if you just sit him down and ask if he doesn't want to be a big part of planning the day, you'll have your answer. He will have to be involved to a point, and if it is important to you to have his input about the details, then tell him so.
It's important for you to find out if that's the case, or if he has cold feet about actually making it official. Sounds like he pretty much has already committed to you, but taking the next step might be frightening for him. Some people get hung up on the official part of the committment
Communication is the key!
Best of luck!
Maybe if you just sit him down and ask if he doesn't want to be a big part of planning the day, you'll have your answer. He will have to be involved to a point, and if it is important to you to have his input about the details, then tell him so.
It's important for you to find out if that's the case, or if he has cold feet about actually making it official. Sounds like he pretty much has already committed to you, but taking the next step might be frightening for him. Some people get hung up on the official part of the committment
Communication is the key!
Best of luck!
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