would you?

Question

if you were 18 would you date a guy thats 22 still lives home but works full time at a graphing designer job and going back to school but his mom treats him like hes 5?

GRose · Answer

It seems like you are very unsure about this guy, I saw in a previous post that you aren't sure that you are OK with the fact that he is a Dad. 
So how old are you?????? I'm confused.

GRose · Answer

22 is still pretty young, as long as he has his **** together and isnt mooching off his Mom I think it is fine. Also make sure that he does have plans to move out sometime before 25. Any older and it starts to get pretty weird.

Jary08 · Answer

I think it sounds perfectly fine. Im 19 and my bf is 26 and only moved out of his mums house in January of this year. Though this wasnt the first time as he has lived at different places on his own, but they didnt work out so he moved back home.

But like others have sad, he seems career driven and responsible. As long as you and he get along and make it work then go for it : ) Then eventually he may think of getting his own place.

Plus my bf's mum still likes to treat him as a little boy sometimes cause hes her son and she loves him and his twin bro so its perfectly natural for a mother to still act like their child is still their baby lol...i can imagine its a scary thing when the child/ren youve given birth to suddenly seem to grow up and don't need to depend on you so much.

treazzure007 · Answer

i can't see why not.  my husband was about the same age, had just gotten out of the army, was enrolled in community college, and was working at ruby tuesdays' and living at his older sister's house when i met him.  

despise not the day of small beginnings is what the bible says.  get to know the guy.  situations and surroundings can change at the drop of a hat

davbar · Answer

Well speaking from pretty much the same situation except from the male P.O.V. and working to architecture instead of design um the hardest part is going to be the lack of time he is going to have and the difference in matuirty.  If he is already a graphic designer then he has to put in a massive amount of hours towards his job, and to go back to school for it will be just as many.  It will be stressful for you both. And as far as the maturity thing goes its not to say that you are immature but you and him are going to be different.  He is going to have priorities that dont match yours and the same goes the other way.  Its going to be hard to have him tell you something isnt important and its going to be hard for him to hear that you dont think something is important.  It is not to say that you arent mature just the fact that you are going to act your age, and there is nothign wrong with it but he is going to do the same.  Not that any of that was actually helpful but overall if you decide to do it.... its going to be rough. goodluck

nessie12 · Answer

at least he is career oriented its not like he is sitting at home playing video games full time and working part time...as for the mother situation no one can control how she treats him...but i think if you know he has his head on straight and can stand on his own two feet and isnt planning on being taken care of my mom then girlfriend and maybe eventually wife then why not see where it goes you are still young at 18 19 or 20 if it doesnt work out there will be another boy