How is this possible?

[kittypowa]

Hi

I've been in a relationship with this guy for about 4 months, and we've been having unprotected sex for almost 3 months.
We both took STD tests, my result came back positive for Chlamydia and his result came back negative.
How is this possible? I am so confused and worried that this might influence our relationship.

Here are some facts about my history to help you answer my question.
- I've never had any form of sex (even foreplays) with anyone else for over 4 years until I started to date this man.
- I tested all types of STDs when my last relationship ended (over 4 years ago)- and they all came back negative.
- I swear to God and my parents that I've never met anybody out of this relationship.
- my test was via the swab during PAP, and his was via urine sample.

[kittypowa]

Thanks.

I've reached a conclusion that nobody cannot know exactly what happened and who did what.
So I'll just leave this as an unsolved mystery and will keep my faith in our relationship.

Thank you everyone.

[JessyJames2010]

"At least I've learned a lesson - take a STDs test (including the partner) before you get into an intimate relationship. "  

This is golden right here, I hope more people are paying attention.  It is a bit discouraging how many people actually do this.  

Best of luck in the future.

[kittypowa]

Thank you.

[Vance2335]

Well you have learned a good lesson at the very least.
Results negative not 1-2 weeks try like 1-4 days. Anything after day 7 is going to be conclusive...unless it is a false +/-. Which as I said possible but rare

[kittypowa]

Thank you Vance 2335,

Unfortunately both he and I took the medication and now it's meaningless to re-take the test. So I think this incident will stay as a mystery of my life.

It is very irritating that the clinic told my partner that the result could come out negative within 1-2 weeks of infection, which may lead to the suspicion that I haven't been faithful during our relationship. I just hate having to explain how much I have been sincere in this relationship and to convince him that I'm being honest.

This whole situation really upsets me.
At least I've learned a lesson - take a STDs test (including the partner) before you get into an intimate relationship.

Thank you all for your concerns and helpful advices.

[Vance2335]

I have to disagree some what. I have seen many people who have a positive chlamydia test who retest and find a negative 2nd and 3rd test. So false positive is indeed possible. It is on the rare side but still possible.

But the possibility also arises that he had a false negative as outline above or that he did treat himself and not thinking he exposued you.

I did not read everything but if you have not medicated then test again (both of you). If you have medicated then unless he confesses to something it will remain a mystery.

[kittypowa]

Thank you very much for your thoughtful answer.
He and I need to talk as you said.

[KCheese]

Both of your exams (you and your bfs) were done with a swab and sent for testing right? I know for a fact that if they took a swab, and they diagnose chlamydia, then it is chlamydia. There is no reason why there could be a false positive, its not like a blood test where you are looking for antibodies. Its either there or not there.

I believe urine results may produce false negatives if he urinated frequently before the test, it would made the test void cause the entire UT would have been cleared by the urine prior to get the sample taken.

Since you took the test sometime between 2 - 3 months after everyday intercourse with your bf. This should conclude that you did indeed have chlamydia.

You should really bring this up and be honest with your boyfriend. There is no way you could have had chlamydia and given it to him, yet he gets a negative. The only reason (neutral stance) I see, is that:
1) At some point in time, before or during your relationship currently, he may have been exposed to chylamydia.
2) Guilt/Anxiety or whatever feeling he may had, he went to get tested and got it resolved with antibiotics on his own
3) Faulty Urine sample, (if this is what he had), produced false negative.

At this point, I don't see a need to accuse him of anything. Just explain that you are worried and tell him this discrepancy is a problem. Hopefully you two can explain everything and get it sorted out.

[kittypowa]

I took the STD test 3 years ago, after my last (and first) relationship ended a year ahead. It all came out negative. And that relationship didn't involve intensive sexual activities since it was a long distance relationship.

Between then and now, there's no slight possibility of me getting STDs in any ways but via my current partner. I really can't figure out how come he doesn't have it while I have it because we've been having sex almost every day for the past 3 months.

So possible stories here are;
1. my current partner's test result was false negative
   --- how rare is this?

2. my previous STD test (in 3 years ago) was false negative
   --- but is it possible to live without recognizing that you have it for over 3-4 years?

I'm extremely confused.

[KCheese]

**To Clarify
Just asking if you are sure that your chlamydia isn't from one of your own past partners in the past cause Chlamydia usually doesn't cause symptoms for people.

[KCheese]

I have never ever heard of a false chlamydia positive.

He may have had partners before you and caught it from them. He may have his own worry and went to the doctor without telling you and got his medications to get rid of it. Was probably hoping for the best that you don't have it.

You should just open a channel of communication to ask him how that happened. Please be ready to accept if you haven't already that must have had a partner before you. But the issue is how you could have it without him having it.

Also, for your test, you haven't included your own previous partners at all. Did you get your tests after your previous partner 4 years ago?

[kittypowa]

Thanks.

[Aelly]

There is no way in which chlamydia could exist without the possibility of another encounter. I have never heard of it before but I will look more into it.

[kittypowa]

Yes he told me he's been with someone before this relationship, but I have no idea how long ago it was. I've been accusing him of being the first carrier of Chlamydia until today when he told about the result of his STD test.
I'm very confused.

[kittypowa]

Thank you both for the answers.
We both took medications right after my test result came back, so re-testing is meaningless.
But based on your answers I've got some things to discuss with him.

Thank you.

[JessyJames2010]

... It will only influence your relationship if you let it; before any discussion with him, know the facts I wish you the best on it.

The possibilities are:
ASSUMING true fidelity amongst the BOTH of you:
you got a false positive - means that the test says you have it when you really don't.  And so test again (if you took antibiotics this will affect the next test, it will probably come back negative as your probably being treated).  

Second possibility, because of inconsistency of test amongst partners: your test was acurate and he got a false negative - means that the tests says he doesn't t have it when he probably does.  

Other possibilities we can't say for sure because we don't know, and you know your partner better than me.  We assess based on medical facts, which are test results, and know that Chlamydia test is not 100% accurate.  

Its a mess and the truth is its somewhat difficult to find.  

Best of luck to you.

[Aelly]

It could be possible he may have had it but cleared up on its own. I have heard cases like these before but the question is: Has he been with anyone else during this relationship or before this relationship happened?