Do I have a risk from frottage or kiss/lick on penis

[Worriedguym]

Hi,
I went to a massage parlour in India today. The massuese kissed/licked my shaft very briefly (maybe a peck on the tip too) and then sat on me for about 5 mins and grinded against my bare penis. She had her panties on. She then went on to give me a handjob. Do I have any exposure risk that I need to be worried and/ or get tested for any STDs or STIs? If yes, please let me know which ones and when?
There's a lot of conflicting/unreliable info on the internet and that's why I only trust this site.
Thanks!

[auntiejessi]

The massuese kissed/licked my shaft very briefly (maybe a peck on the tip too)  - no risk here. It's too brief to have transmitted anything, and licking the shaft means nothing got into your urethra.

then sat on me for about 5 mins and grinded against my bare penis. She had her panties on. - No risk. STDs don't transmit through clothing.

She then went on to give me a handjob. - No risk. Hands don't transmit STDs. I'm including some links to explain why.

We're happy you trust us. :)


Here are some posts from our experts (when we had them) that may help -

https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/Nervous-about-mutual-masturbation/show/2183476

https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/Mutual-Masturbation-STD/show/1968429

https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/mutual-masturbation-sti/show/1858544

https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/Understanding-the-risks-of-mutual-fingering/show/1516796

https://www.medhelp.org/posts/HIV---Prevention/Vaginal-fluid-on-hand-touched-inside-of-condom-and-head-of-penis/show/1119533 - read this thread thoroughly. There is an excellent explanation about why certain activities are not risks, and why others are.

[Worriedguym]

Thank you for such a quick response. Just a follow up question to put my mind at ease - Even the the peck (or kiss for a few seconds on the tip of the penis) is no risk?
And you said when we had experts - do we not have expert doctors on this forum anymore?

[auntiejessi]

Yes - a quick kiss isn't going to transmit anything.

No, we haven't had experts on the site since 2014.

I just read your previous questions. It seems that when you go to these places, it causes you great stress. Perhaps you shouldn't go anymore. :)

I'm not criticizing you, but just pointing out that maybe you can avoid this.

[Worriedguym]

Thanks a lot auntiejessi! Yes, I really want to quit going to such places. I'm in a sexless marriage for the last 6 years (had penetrative sex once). Have discussed with my wife 4 times but nothing much has changed. She has her reasons. I do love her a lot but lack of sex is the only issue. All couples have sex regularly and we don't. Is there a forum on this site that can help me?

[auntiejessi]

We have a relationships forum that may help. https://www.medhelp.org/forums/Relationships/show/78

Have you tried marriage counseling? I don't know her reasons - and really don't need to know - but has she seen a doctor if it's about painful sex? Has she had her hormones tested? Some women feel a decline in sex drive during menopause and there are things that can help that. (I have no idea how old you both are, and again, don't need to know and you don't need to share that, I'm just including it in case it applies).

Maybe she doesn't like sex, or is asexual. In any case, counseling would be a good place to start.

Best to you.

[Worriedguym]

Thank you so much, auntiejessi!