Sti spit/handjob

[joe1756]

I got a handjob the woman used spit in saliva she spit on my penis I'm at risk for anything? She licked her hand and then give me the hand job too

[GuitarRox]

You will not get an std from a hand job even with spit/saliva. It just doesn't happen in the real world.

[joe1756]

I've been very lonely lately and I'm in therapy and I paid somebody to give me a massage and I'm wrought with guilt. I've done it before in the past and I only get massages because I'm too paranoid about disease. Give me advice and I can not feel bad about getting a massage?

[Gazsmithster]

STIs are not passed from mutual masturbation at all. a HJ is considered mutual masturbation

[joe1756]

I should mention I paid for a massage. She didn't, but would there no risk if someone had rashes on hands

[auntiejessi]

Did she actually have a rash on her hands? The only risk would be if she had a syphilis rash on her hands, and syphilis is uncommon in most developed countries.

I wouldn't worry about this at all. I don't know why you are so wrought with guilt about this - if you have a regular partner or something - but you have no reason to worry about an STI from this.

[joe1756]

Because Im alone and I paid for a handjob because I afraid of disease. Just to be clear if even if somebody had something there's no way I can get a STI through a handjob? I know theoretically anything's possible but I'm just talking real world

[auntiejessi]

Real world chances? I wouldn't worry at all. Not even a little.

You can really stop worrying. :)

[joe1756]

Thank you for the :-) it makes me feel like somebody actually cares. I guess I feel guilty about having to pay somebody to give me a handjob.  

[auntiejessi]

Well, to be fair, you don't actually have to pay, right? You chose to pay. I don't know anything about you, or why you're single, but I do know if you don't want to be single, you don't have to be.

There are a whole lot of reasons we all feed ourselves for why we are single if we would rather not be, and some may be true, some probably aren't. We can probably get over/through a lot of those with therapy and putting ourselves out there.

There are lots of reasons that people pay for sex. Loneliness is just one of them. Be kinder to yourself. :)

[Sca123]

Is it possible if someone puts a finger in the back of someone’s throat and then touches themselves if they can transmit anything?

[joe1756]

If the sky would fall it would have done it already.  STDs needs a specific environment in order to reproduce that is why they are called sexually transmitted diseases.  A handjob is considered a sexual act because it concludes with an orgasm but if you take that away it'd be no different than somebody massaging your thigh. STDs are probably neutralized by like things like air saliva, spit because they need very specific environments to survive and reproduce.  

[Sca123]

I am so sorry to hijack the thread- was not my intention. This community is amazing and I will be a better participant

[joe1756]

Don't apologize. I tend worry myself and was trying give a rational framework in which to think about it

[auntiejessi]

Joe, you are very kind.

Sca, I've explained to you how STDs are transmitted on many occasions, most recently here - https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs-STIs/Syphillis/show/3076213

Joe's answer is correct, and we understand anxiety, but please, at this point, it is time to seek counseling for your anxiety, Sca. You deserve to find peace.  

[Sca123]

Thank you- the work you do here is incredible.

[auntiejessi]

Thank you for your nice words, and you're welcome.

[joe1756]

I'm in a wearing cycle again so it is impossible for me to get a STD through a handjob because I keep hearing about what the theoretically possible and I frankly find that scary I just had my urine checked I was clear of infection and it's been 7 days since the encounter

[auntiejessi]

A wearing cycle?

Listen, some websites will tell me it is theoretically possible for me to leave work, buy a winning lottery ticket, get stuck by lighting, and then hit by a bus, all while a UFO hovers overhead.

Could these things all happen? Maybe. In practice? No.

Many websites have to list all theoretical possibilities in order to cover their butts. I've been in and around this field for a long, long time - longer than a lot of you have been alive, probably. Never once seen anyone get an STI from a handjob. It's not even low, low odds - it just doesn't happen.

Here are some posts from our experts (when we had them) that may help -

https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/Nervous-about-mutual-masturbation/show/2183476

https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/Mutual-Masturbation-STD/show/1968429

https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/mutual-masturbation-sti/show/1858544

https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/Understanding-the-risks-of-mutual-fingering/show/1516796

https://www.medhelp.org/posts/HIV---Prevention/Vaginal-fluid-on-hand-touched-inside-of-condom-and-head-of-penis/show/1119533 - read this thread thoroughly. There is an excellent explanation about why certain activities are not risks, and why others are.

[joe1756]

Thank you, I meant to write worrying cycle I had a doctor on justanswer tell me if she touches a lesions and then herself ect. there's a chance

[auntiejessi]

Oh lord, these doctors.

Yes, in theory, that's possible. That's called autoinoculation, and 99.9% of the time happens when a herpes infection is new and someone touches an outbreak and then touches their eye or mouth or something.

It's not something that happens between people, and doesn't apply to your situation. Your partner used saliva and then touched your penis. She didn't have a lesion, saliva doesn't carry anything, and you're fine.

Are you in counseling? And stop with the doctors. Your reaction to this is way out of proportion to this risk.