So I was in Cabo and was drunk at a strip club. I ended up making out with a stripper and then it escalated to her giving me oral with a condom on, and we had sex with a condom on. At one point, that I completely regret, I went down on her for a lick on the top part of her vagina before I stopped myself. I don't remember seeing anything that I visually would worry about and she didn't stop me. Also, to make matters worse, after I finished in her and pulled out, the condom was not on me. I don't know if it slipped off upon pull out or before.
What should I get tested for and when? What are my risks? What should I keep an eye out for? And how do I make myself not constantly think about it and make myself feel sick? I constantly think every twitch and tingle is the end of my life as I know it. I am also in a committed relationship. What are her risks? Should I tell her? Help! Thank you.