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Idiocy and resultant panic
Hi,
Recently I got far, far too drunk (in Seattle, WA, if that has any bearing on the answer to my question) and ended up sleeping with a complete stranger. She insisted we used condoms (thankfully). However, the condom broke and it may have been a couple of minutes before we noticed. I am currently going out of my mind with worry that I may have contracted something. Neither of us had cuts, lesions or similar anywhere on our bodies and she had no obvious signs of any kind of infection. In fact, I probably wouldn't even be worrying unless I didn't have a significant other who is unaware of this hideous indiscretion (and, no, I couldn't be beating myself up more about the infidelity--I feel physically sick every time I think of it, I can't sleep, and I want to cry all the time...this from a 35 year-old man: this horrible event was utterly out of character). So, whilst I understand that ANY sexual contact with anyone runs a risk of something, what kind of statistical likelihood am I actually looking at here?
Any and all help/information very much appreciated.
Recently I got far, far too drunk (in Seattle, WA, if that has any bearing on the answer to my question) and ended up sleeping with a complete stranger. She insisted we used condoms (thankfully). However, the condom broke and it may have been a couple of minutes before we noticed. I am currently going out of my mind with worry that I may have contracted something. Neither of us had cuts, lesions or similar anywhere on our bodies and she had no obvious signs of any kind of infection. In fact, I probably wouldn't even be worrying unless I didn't have a significant other who is unaware of this hideous indiscretion (and, no, I couldn't be beating myself up more about the infidelity--I feel physically sick every time I think of it, I can't sleep, and I want to cry all the time...this from a 35 year-old man: this horrible event was utterly out of character). So, whilst I understand that ANY sexual contact with anyone runs a risk of something, what kind of statistical likelihood am I actually looking at here?
Any and all help/information very much appreciated.
Same here Inkmonkey,instead I did go to CSW 3weeks ago.since then there is not a single day without me crying,completely messed up.Lets try our best to not to think of it again and again because it may lead to something else.
Any way lets make this incidents a good lesson in our life and I already gave up My drinking&smoking habit.
GOD BLESS YOU!
GOD BLESS US!
Any way lets make this incidents a good lesson in our life and I already gave up My drinking&smoking habit.
GOD BLESS YOU!
GOD BLESS US!
Thank you very much for the response--it is much appreciated.
You're probably right on the therapy front, I'm just really averse to telling anyone at all, partially because of the guilt and partially because it would feel like I was humiliating my other half...and, even if she doesn't know it, I've done that already. I guess I've got some thinking to do on that front.
Your comments on the chances of infection have made me rest a little easier, thank you.
You're probably right on the therapy front, I'm just really averse to telling anyone at all, partially because of the guilt and partially because it would feel like I was humiliating my other half...and, even if she doesn't know it, I've done that already. I guess I've got some thinking to do on that front.
Your comments on the chances of infection have made me rest a little easier, thank you.
Hello
Right away I will say that STDs is not your problem at all. In fact it was good she requested a condom so that is encouraging. Also you describe a low risk encounter for STDs, You should stop thinking about them, unless you present a symptom --and we don't recommend testing from this exposure.
It is very very key, here in many things you said. Talk to a good therapist about this, you need to talk to someone (not your wife) about all this.
http://www.medhelp.org/user_journals/show/221430/psychological-aspect-of-STDs-on-these-forums?personal_page_id=1411239
Right away I will say that STDs is not your problem at all. In fact it was good she requested a condom so that is encouraging. Also you describe a low risk encounter for STDs, You should stop thinking about them, unless you present a symptom --and we don't recommend testing from this exposure.
It is very very key, here in many things you said. Talk to a good therapist about this, you need to talk to someone (not your wife) about all this.
http://www.medhelp.org/user_journals/show/221430/psychological-aspect-of-STDs-on-these-forums?personal_page_id=1411239
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