Lower Risk for all Infections

[documentarytt]

Hello,
What is the best way/combination to lower the risk for all infections or diseases during sexual intercourse. I am 32, a virgin & actually want to experience sex but can't help to avoid it as I am so very concerned about catching something. I am very health conscious.

I also read "Seductive Delusions: How Everyday People Catch STDs", which only supports my theory of not having sex at all.

Furthermore, I had the idea of asking potential sex partners to have blood tests in advance. However, I don't know whether this feasible in practice... How expensive are these tests? Do they show all STDs?

Norman

[JessyJames2010]

Forgot to answer your question about sources:

You should read through the STD Expert forum.  Besides my life's experiences, this is where I get the majority of my info, as I see myself in what the doctors are reporting.

Also, GracefromHHP's journal has some great entrees, I've learned quiet alot by reading it, there is also many links to accurate websites there:

http://www.medhelp.org/user_posts/list/101028?personal_page_id=2773

[JessyJames2010]

Just make some correct choices on whom your going to be intimate with, use condoms.   The key thing that I mentioned, and then Grace put in better wording is:

"potential partners need to wait 3 months after the last time they  had sex in order for all of their testing to be accurate [if it was protected sex then follow appropriate window periods for each STD] "

[gracefromHHP]

if you and a partner both get full std testing done ( obviously you'd only need hsv1 testing done prior to your first partner since you don't have anything else but that as a risk ), the only risks you have then are molluscum and hpv - we can't test easily for them.  even though you are over the cut off ranges for gardasil shots, you can still get them however you will have to pay out of pocket for them. since you've never had sex before, you will get good protection from them.  molluscum is merely a cosmetic concern so if you end up with that, not a big deal and it can be treated.  putting a condom on when the clothes come off and not waiting for actual penetration will help protect you from hpv and molluscum.  

don't hesitate to ask potential partners to share their test results with you. that way you know exactly what they were tested for. Many providers only test for 2 or 3 std's when you ask them and many people mistakenly think that getting yearly pap tests is covering your bases for std testing which it is not.  also potential partners need to wait 3 months after the last time they  had sex in order for all of their testing to be accurate.

grace

[documentarytt]

Wow, this isn't as easy as I thought. I assumed that it would only take a few days or weeks. I guess then all of this does not make sense at all as the potential partner could easily contract a disease in the meantime.

"Wow, backup! Baby, let's wait until we get the results in a few months and kiss then."

I am somewhat surprised that we don't have an appropriate answer for such problems, after all this is a part of almost everybody's life.

Do you have any recommendations where I could find more information? This seems like one of the best forums in this matter, but I don't want to move to far when you say it's only about STDs.

Thanks

[JessyJames2010]

Norman Norman,

Yes, techniqual very, that's quite funny, I will laugh later.  This forum is not a coaching forum for gettin' some.  Or professionaly said, not a forum on dating etiquette.  However lets  address the STD issues.

1. Most females prefer to not have sex on the first meeting.  In fact MOST FEMALES WON'T HAVE SEX WITH YOU as their inhibition is higher.   This is a factor played by women for in prevention of spead of STDs.  Men should consider this role as well.  I read an article the other day about how heterosexually men can stop the AIDS/HIV pandemic from just thinking more like women and having more inhibition from casual sex.
2.  Prices for an STD pannel ranges from region to region and based on medical insurance or lack of, I've seen anywhere from $300 to $1,300 for full testing (I want to remind you that you don't need testing).
3. Safe sex: no risk activities for HIV, chlamydia, hep B: vaginal sex use condoms (you take the risk if condom breaks), mutual masterbration, oral sex, role playing, "dry humping", kissing.  Also, risks are nil for most other STDs

Your diet has no dramatic effects on STDs really, if you are having sex with an infected individual the chances are you are going to get it.  Yeah, a healthy diet does increase your immune system and fighting off infections and so I see your point about STDs here.  I haven't read any studies on diet and STDs.  

If you want to have sex with 6 different women, you would need to consider the months (18 of them) worth of window periods for conclusive STD tests from each new partner (I am talking about herpes/HIV).  All STD tests will be conclusive at 3 months post last possible exposure.  I hope you understand what I am saying.  

Bottom line: you have a good plan, if you are using condoms.  

[documentarytt]

Thank you for the advice, but here's the problem: I don't want to limit myself to one woman or want to get married. I don't need to get laid twice a weekend, or anything like that, but 6 sex partners a year would be totally fine with me. I am still young, maybe I'll limit myself...It's not that I don't want to have sex and that's why I am a virgin. I just want to have sex and know its safe, otherwise I could not enjoy it.

As for now, let us assume I want to go for the 6 sex partners a year. I know that I would not enjoy or even have intercourse etc. if I am aware that it is dangerous.

What I need is a game plan to reduce the risk systematically, and maybe you can here as I assume you know more in this field:
1. It wouldn't be a problem to not have sex right away when I meet a person. I would just get to know this person in the first step.
2. When we know that we're about to have sex, we agree on having tests in advance. (How much are they and how long do you have to wait for results?)
3. Safer Sex Practice

Also my diet would lower the risk of contracting an STD, but I have that diet anyway and not to lower the risk.

I would repeat these steps with every sex partner, and I am aware that all this might sound a little bit technical on paper.

Thanks in advance!

[world78]

How about HIV?

[JessyJames2010]

oh yeah forgot to add: condoms work!  99.9 % effective against chalmydia, gonorrhea, NGU when used correctly.   That 99.9 % is pretty darn good, so good we call that no risk.  

90% effective against Herpes, syphilis and HPV (uclerative STDs)   that's pretty good for these stds.  

[JessyJames2010]

I tip my hat off to you Norman, for being 32 and a virgin.   Abstinence is the best way to prevent STD infections.  

I think good advice for you is to find that special someone, get married and have her get tested for everything, and then have at it because an STD negative person cannot give you anything (with the exception of probably non specific NGU).

If you must have sex and can't hold it any longer, then you should, yes ask your potential sex partner to be tested.    And this practice IS feasible I have done it recently, but didn't go through with the sex (*laughs*), I made someone test for their own good.   I simply said, one evening on talking about health, "I am STD negative for everything and have papers to prove this, my health is important to me I hope you feel the same way... "  etc.