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What is my HSV and HIV risk after unprotected exposure to sores?
Hello all, I apologize for the novel I'm about to write, but I'm looking for a little support. So three weeks ago I made a major drunken mistake and had unprotected oral, vaginal, and brief anal sex with a promiscious friend/coworker on a one night stand. As we were were finishing I noticed she had lesions near her anus. I asked about it and of course she said she gets tested on the regular at the ob/gyn because of a history of family medical female issues (cancer I assume). To my understanding Herpes and HIV testing are not part of any standard 6 or 12 month check ups and I don't believe everyone is aware of that.
Naturally my anxiety started the moment I got home because I didn't buy it about the testing. Two days later I started feeling nausea and had a prodrome like symptoms on upper pubic area and found a slightly raised bump in that same spot. In my state of panic I decided to shave my pubic area so that I could see better. Well that was a bad idea because hours later I had more bumps which I thought was razor burn which made things worse and harder to determine. 4 days later I went to my doctors office and explained the situation. She immediately chalked up the now 4 lesions as folliculitis. Prescribed clotrimazole and an antibiotic cream and then chose to test me for everything anyway. I know the window was too soon but i figured maybe something would come up on IGM, at least I could make sense of it. Well something did come up on IGM and IGG HSV1 came up pos, and HSV2 neg. Again I know the HSV2, Syph, and HIV window is too soon. My long time girlfriend of many years has gets a cold sore every once in a blue on her lip so HSV1 was not surprising. Prescribed Valacyclovir. A few days later I noticed two more lesions and had the doctor swab them for culture. Came back negative for herpes. Doctor prescribed zoloft and xanax because she could see I was becoming anxious. 2nd week after exposure, new smaller lesions. None of which look exactly like herpes. One day all of a sudden I have thus fatigue and heavy foggy feeling and numbness in my head that comes and goes never in the same place which a few days later got so bad one day I left work because I felt like I was going to pass out numbness went down my neck to my arm and my heart was racing. Went straight to urgent care explained my symptoms and checking me out the doc checked it my head and reflexes and then couldn't make heads or tails about the lesions. He saw nothing wrong with my throat (although he only looked very briefly). He then told me with exception to the rash that a good deal of this could be explained away by anxiety and that I was most likely experiencing a panic attack and recommended therapy. We're at week 3 now with all the same symptoms and now I have a slight itchy rash on palms and an intermittent burning and sensation on the back and sides of my neck as well as a canker on tongue I'm starting to freak out about the possibility of ARS from HIV since at this point I've experienced everything but the fever. I realize that in the world of symptoms all roads lead to Rome. And although I'm not trying to be one of those people I cant help but feel scared and anxious. I've got a good woman and beautiful children to raise and none of them deserve this because of my selfishness, weakness, and stupidity. Made an appointment with a dermatologist and also a therapist for my obvious anxiety and guilt.
Retesting for everything at the 5-6 week mark but my anxiety is without a doubt getting the best of me and I don't know what to do.
Naturally my anxiety started the moment I got home because I didn't buy it about the testing. Two days later I started feeling nausea and had a prodrome like symptoms on upper pubic area and found a slightly raised bump in that same spot. In my state of panic I decided to shave my pubic area so that I could see better. Well that was a bad idea because hours later I had more bumps which I thought was razor burn which made things worse and harder to determine. 4 days later I went to my doctors office and explained the situation. She immediately chalked up the now 4 lesions as folliculitis. Prescribed clotrimazole and an antibiotic cream and then chose to test me for everything anyway. I know the window was too soon but i figured maybe something would come up on IGM, at least I could make sense of it. Well something did come up on IGM and IGG HSV1 came up pos, and HSV2 neg. Again I know the HSV2, Syph, and HIV window is too soon. My long time girlfriend of many years has gets a cold sore every once in a blue on her lip so HSV1 was not surprising. Prescribed Valacyclovir. A few days later I noticed two more lesions and had the doctor swab them for culture. Came back negative for herpes. Doctor prescribed zoloft and xanax because she could see I was becoming anxious. 2nd week after exposure, new smaller lesions. None of which look exactly like herpes. One day all of a sudden I have thus fatigue and heavy foggy feeling and numbness in my head that comes and goes never in the same place which a few days later got so bad one day I left work because I felt like I was going to pass out numbness went down my neck to my arm and my heart was racing. Went straight to urgent care explained my symptoms and checking me out the doc checked it my head and reflexes and then couldn't make heads or tails about the lesions. He saw nothing wrong with my throat (although he only looked very briefly). He then told me with exception to the rash that a good deal of this could be explained away by anxiety and that I was most likely experiencing a panic attack and recommended therapy. We're at week 3 now with all the same symptoms and now I have a slight itchy rash on palms and an intermittent burning and sensation on the back and sides of my neck as well as a canker on tongue I'm starting to freak out about the possibility of ARS from HIV since at this point I've experienced everything but the fever. I realize that in the world of symptoms all roads lead to Rome. And although I'm not trying to be one of those people I cant help but feel scared and anxious. I've got a good woman and beautiful children to raise and none of them deserve this because of my selfishness, weakness, and stupidity. Made an appointment with a dermatologist and also a therapist for my obvious anxiety and guilt.
Retesting for everything at the 5-6 week mark but my anxiety is without a doubt getting the best of me and I don't know what to do.
43 here with a great wife. I went to Thai massage place and she gave me a happy ending a week ago. Not so happy now that my penis and anus are itching/burning. I can test for gon/chlamydia but HIV, syph, hsv I have to wait. Absolutely brutal anxiety and can't sleep. I feel for you man. We have odds on our side that we are clean. I know anxiety can create all kinds of symptoms. Most of yours sound like anxiety based. The tests are going to free us from this prison. And we can't do anything stupid like this again. You need to communicate with a like minded person feel free to message. Lately I've been up all hours so time isn't a factor.
For what its worth I'm still a wreck, but I have found myself feeling a little better when I'm focused on something engaging. Stay strong man.
I'm in same boat man. This anxiety is brutal. It is crazy having to wait months for testing to be accurate. I guess we have to learn our lesson the hard way.
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Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
