I’m not trying to beat a dead horse but knowledgeable answers or guidance to my specific scenario would be highly appreciated even if only to help subside paranoia.
22 days I went to get a massage with no other goals in mind and would up with a finger in my butt for a few seconds and a happy ending that lasted less than a minute with I’m assuming the massage oil. The massage itself was the only other contact.
I left feeling dumb because it’s not my thing and I’m married and have never even had a though of doing this and am extremely happy sexually with my wife and have what I see as being an ideal marriage.
2-3 days after the encounter my penis head( the widest portion closest to the foreskin being circumcised) became feeling kind of raw like it does with too much sex or to dry or whatever. Redness primarily on the left and right side of the area I described. It may just be a bit swollen but also seems like many small bumps around that area. No white heads and I don’t believe puss filled or and scabbing or anything. This would not overly concern me except for it’s still there after 22 days.
4/5 days after the encounter it began to burn when I be and my testicles became sore. It still sometimes burns and my testicles still sometime are in pain.
The timing of these are my main concern. Received all neg for herpes, gonnorhea, clamidya, syphillis, and whatever else is on the 10 panel test after 7, 12, and 21 days ( so on 3 different occasions) and also came up negative for growth for uti on urine culture
My paranoia now has me thinking herpes. Likely because of the lingering bumps, rash, swelling ( whatever it is) on my penis head. And possibility of some bumps in my urethra causing Dyseria?
It all just seems like I very odd circumstance, I don’t mean to beat the bush here, I just want a life without fear and anxiety and the test aren’t even doing that for me, especially now that I’m finding places saying you couldn’t even test positive for herpes until 4-6 months has went by. I just need some help.
Please advise, and thank you for you time.