Oral sex and worried about sti

[Normalguys]

Hello, i had a oral sex last 2 weeks. So iam worry about hiv and sti. I wanna asking about risk. I living with my family and i had some kid in my house. STI and Syphilis can get from kiss, hug, toilet, eat, daily life,.... ? Thankyou, sorry my english verry bad

[Sara_MHModerator]

Our members have patiently answered your questions and we suggest you speak to your doctor about anxiety

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[GuitarRox]

We already answered about HIV on the HIV forum that it is no risk. And sti's from non sexual things like toilets, eating, daily life and hugging are not risks. The sexually transmitted part of sti's is important to include. Kissing could pass Hsv 1 or oral herpes but 80 percent of the planet has it (it's cold sores). Oral sex that is unprotected can pose some risk for std's but the general rule is that unless you have symptoms, you don't need to test from it.

[Normalguys]

Thankyou

[Normalguys]

I want to ask more about blood sti.  my face has lots of red bumps and maybe blood, if someone kisses me on the cheek or touches my face and puts his hand right into his mouth is there a risk?  thankYou

[auntiejessi]

No.

When we talk about blood risk, there has to be a decent amount of blood and an actual break in the skin. You have red bumps. Even if you have broken skin, kissing doesn't transmit anything except maybe herpes type 1. If someone has a visible sore, don't let them kiss you.

If someone touches your face and puts his hand in his mouth, there is no risk to either of you.

First, you don't have HIV or any blood-borne pathogens, right? He'd be putting your blood in his mouth, so the risk, if there was one, would be to him.

Second, even if you did have something, there would be maybe a tiny, tiny amount of blood, which isn't enough to transmit anything.

STDs require sexual activity to transmit. That means oral sex, vaginal sex, or anal sex. It can also mean unclothed genital to genital or genital to anal grinding or rubbing.

You need to talk to someone about your irrational fears. If STDs and HIV were so easy to get, everyone would have one.

[Normalguys]

Thankyou for that. I have 3 kid at home, that’s why i was worried. We got hug and kiss everyday.

[auntiejessi]

We have already explained that your children would not be at risk for anything. People with STDs raise kids all the time.

I know you are anxious, but please educate yourself. People with STDs are not walking, talking biohazards. You could work with people who have HIV or herpes or HPV. Your best friend might have herpes, and you'd never know. They don't need to tell you, because if they aren't having sex with you, there is no risk to you.

We have answered your questions for you. Please talk to a therapist about your guilt about this, and perhaps to a doctor. Your fear is not in proportion to the risk.

[Normalguys]

Thankyou so much for help!!!

[auntiejessi]

You're welcome. :)

[Normalguys]

I have 1 question.  if I perform oral sex for a guy.  will the syphilis stings only appear in my mouth when they appear, or will they appear everywhere at the same time?