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Happy ending massage & fingering : Should I test for STIs ?
Hi - I had a happy ending massage 4 days ago. The massage lady used some lubricant while performing the hand job. After the handjob she cleaned my with wet towel and then tissues. Also during the massage I fingered a little bit and may have also touched her anus accidentally.
I am really worried about getting some STI based on the above encounter. The anxiety is taking a toll on me to the extent that I cannot focus on anything else. I seem to be urinating more frequently than usual and I am not sure if it due to the anxiety.
Should get tested for STDs, and what is the earliest I can test?
I am really worried about getting some STI based on the above encounter. The anxiety is taking a toll on me to the extent that I cannot focus on anything else. I seem to be urinating more frequently than usual and I am not sure if it due to the anxiety.
Should get tested for STDs, and what is the earliest I can test?
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There is no risk here at all.
Hands and towels don't transmit anything.
Here are some posts from our experts (when we had them) that may help -
https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/Nervous-about-mutual-masturbation/show/2183476
https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/Mutual-Masturbation-STD/show/1968429
https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/mutual-masturbation-sti/show/1858544
https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/Understanding-the-risks-of-mutual-fingering/show/1516796
https://www.medhelp.org/posts/HIV---Prevention/Vaginal-fluid-on-hand-touched-inside-of-condom-and-head-of-penis/show/1119533 - read this thread thoroughly. There is an excellent explanation about why certain activities are not risks, and why others are.
Hands and towels don't transmit anything.
Here are some posts from our experts (when we had them) that may help -
https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/Nervous-about-mutual-masturbation/show/2183476
https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/Mutual-Masturbation-STD/show/1968429
https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/mutual-masturbation-sti/show/1858544
https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/Understanding-the-risks-of-mutual-fingering/show/1516796
https://www.medhelp.org/posts/HIV---Prevention/Vaginal-fluid-on-hand-touched-inside-of-condom-and-head-of-penis/show/1119533 - read this thread thoroughly. There is an excellent explanation about why certain activities are not risks, and why others are.
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Thank you for your reply. Is there any risk to my regular partner if I have unprotected sex with her? Is it best to wait for a few weeks (to confirm no symptoms) before becoming intimate with her again?
You had no risk, so therefore you have no need to wait to see if you have symptoms, because you won't get anything.
You don't need to test, either.
You don't need to test, either.
Thank you for your reassuring words. When I search internet in general, I see various sites where it says one can get STDs ( even HIV !) from handjob/fingering. I was really scared from seeing those articles.
I am really hoping you are right.
This was my first visit to a happy ending massage place, and will very likely be the last. Simply not worth all the anxiety I am going through now.
I am really hoping you are right.
This was my first visit to a happy ending massage place, and will very likely be the last. Simply not worth all the anxiety I am going through now.
I can't address what other sites say. Did you read the links I gave you?
You had no risk.
You had no risk.
Yes, I read all of them and they were extremely reassuring. Thanks.
I hope the slightly increased frequency in urination is probably triggered by the anxiety over these past days.
I hope the slightly increased frequency in urination is probably triggered by the anxiety over these past days.
"Slightly increased frequency in urination" may be caused by a very long list of things (caffeine, anxiety, colder weather, etc) and infections are in the very end of this list.
If you get an STI associated with urethritis, the symptoms are usually not described by words "mild" or "slight". The doctors often hear the words "burns like hell" and "on fire".
No matter what other sites would say, handjobs are completely risk-free. You are safe in terms of STIs. Anxiety is a real danger, though.
If you get an STI associated with urethritis, the symptoms are usually not described by words "mild" or "slight". The doctors often hear the words "burns like hell" and "on fire".
No matter what other sites would say, handjobs are completely risk-free. You are safe in terms of STIs. Anxiety is a real danger, though.
Thank you. Could the lubricant she used to give me the handjob have caused UTI? Also I am suspecting maybe she had a tight grip on my penis while giving the hj.
Because the frequent urination issue hasn't completely gone away. There is a slight burning sensation when I pee, but no pain.
Also, to be sure : does the fact that I briefly fingered her (no cuts on my fingers etc) change the assessment in your note above? I used hand sanitizer ( not right away, maybe after 5 minutes) after the parlor visit.
Because the frequent urination issue hasn't completely gone away. There is a slight burning sensation when I pee, but no pain.
Also, to be sure : does the fact that I briefly fingered her (no cuts on my fingers etc) change the assessment in your note above? I used hand sanitizer ( not right away, maybe after 5 minutes) after the parlor visit.
To be clear, you don't know that you have a UTI.
You don't describe any other symptoms of it. You might be slightly dehydrated, perhaps irritated from alcohol or caffeine, etc.
Urinary frequency with a UTI is often significant. Pain with urination, especially for men, is significant. Feeling a slight burning feeling at the end of urination might mean what I said above.
Fingering in no way changes anything.
We have fully addressed all your concerns. You had no risk here.
If you think you have a UTI, go see a doctor. That's the only way you'll know.
In the meantime, increase your water intake, and reduce alcohol and caffeine. Also, it's a good idea to talk to someone about your anxiety. Your reaction to this is far out of proportion to the risk.
You don't describe any other symptoms of it. You might be slightly dehydrated, perhaps irritated from alcohol or caffeine, etc.
Urinary frequency with a UTI is often significant. Pain with urination, especially for men, is significant. Feeling a slight burning feeling at the end of urination might mean what I said above.
Fingering in no way changes anything.
We have fully addressed all your concerns. You had no risk here.
If you think you have a UTI, go see a doctor. That's the only way you'll know.
In the meantime, increase your water intake, and reduce alcohol and caffeine. Also, it's a good idea to talk to someone about your anxiety. Your reaction to this is far out of proportion to the risk.
Today I noticed a small red dot on my pubic area. It is like a very small pimple , only that is not a pimple. i.e. not filled by pus.
There is only one. Is there any chance this could be herpes, or something else? Does herpes happen in group of blisters usually, rather than just one? I also felt slight anal itching. The lymph node closer to this red dot is not swollen, but I can feel slight pain/discomfort if I press near it.
There is only one. Is there any chance this could be herpes, or something else? Does herpes happen in group of blisters usually, rather than just one? I also felt slight anal itching. The lymph node closer to this red dot is not swollen, but I can feel slight pain/discomfort if I press near it.
The only medical problem that is possibly related to all the symptoms you described is anxiety disorder. You are clearly fixated on the idea you might have STIs while you never had real risk.
A red pimple with or without pus is never a symptom of any STI. If any healthy person keeps pressing near lymph nodes that person would feel discomfort. The most common cause of anal itching is fear or anxiety, less common - hemorrhoids or prostatitis and it is almost never an infection. You wouldn't have even noticed those miniscule body sensations before you started overthinking your STI risks.
You should be warned that anxiety disorder is potentially very dangerous, much more dangerous than any STI (which you don't have).
A red pimple with or without pus is never a symptom of any STI. If any healthy person keeps pressing near lymph nodes that person would feel discomfort. The most common cause of anal itching is fear or anxiety, less common - hemorrhoids or prostatitis and it is almost never an infection. You wouldn't have even noticed those miniscule body sensations before you started overthinking your STI risks.
You should be warned that anxiety disorder is potentially very dangerous, much more dangerous than any STI (which you don't have).
Thank you, and I appreciate your comment. Since this only one red spot (as opposed to a cluster) , this can't be herpes even in theory, right? Also it doesn't have clear fluid inside, and I hear herpes blisters typically would be in clusters and with clear fluid inside.
The red spot on me seems to have 2 hair follicles growing out (not at the center, but at the very edge.) I am hoping this just turns out to be folliculitis.
The red spot on me seems to have 2 hair follicles growing out (not at the center, but at the very edge.) I am hoping this just turns out to be folliculitis.
A pimple is not a symptom of any STI including genital herpes.
You have chosen to ignore my reply and that's wrong choice. If you keep examining every pimple on your body you will soon discover lots of terrible things including signs of terminal diseases.
You keep damaging yourself with groundless fear for the infections you don't have. Do you really feel comfortable about that kind of life?
You have chosen to ignore my reply and that's wrong choice. If you keep examining every pimple on your body you will soon discover lots of terrible things including signs of terminal diseases.
You keep damaging yourself with groundless fear for the infections you don't have. Do you really feel comfortable about that kind of life?
Your question has been fully answered by our members.
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