I am asking as no doctors seem to think that the body can be affected with the contraction of one of these viruses . Yet it has severely impacted the life and quality of life of a friend of mine and me
They seem to think that millions of people are born with it . Whereas I believe there is a difference between being born with it and having a sexual incident with someone from whom you contracted it from.
Hence my question if anyone had a similar experience and knows of any treatment for it .
You can be born with them, but most are infected as children and never have any symptoms.
However, lots of people get infected and do become sick. EBV is what causes mono/glandular fever, which can definitely impact the body, though the impact varies from person to person. I had it in high school, and was sick for about a month, though not horribly.
https://www.cdc.gov/epstein-barr/
https://www.cdc.gov/cmv/index.html
For CMV, if you are otherwise healthy, you probably shouldn't have any real impact from it.
Have you and your friend looked into other causes? If you live together, do you have mold in your house? There could be lots of other reasons for your symptoms, whatever they are. Something I say a lot is not to limit yourself when trying to figure out what is wrong - you do yourself a disservice when you do that, and may prolong your suffering.