Worried despite other inputs

[b38]

Aunt Jessie,

You may have seen my posts in other discussion groups.   Bottom line:  protected and unproteced oral/vaginal sex in one evening 7 days ago.  Have not had any penile discharge, sores on penis, shaft or testicles.  Did have a slit/cut in the crease of my leg and groin area where I groomed.  Posted extensively in Dr. Handfield's page and went to a clinic for "eyes on".  The Dr. I saw said he saw thousands of STD/VD cases in his career and I do not have one.   He said I have a skin infection and provided some anti biotics, a topical cream and anti-viral soap.  Everyone said, I have no worries and should stop freaking out.   However, just now I noticed a red blotch on the bottom of my testicles...itchy, but not painful.  I know I have lots of anxiety but what do you think?  

[auntiejessi]

In theory, a herpes sore could be on the forehead, but its pretty unlikely.  I'd say its far more likely to be dry skin, dermatitis, etc.

Also, herpes usually doesn't occur bilaterally - meaning on both sides.  I'd say this is all far more likely to be dermatitis, or even an allergic reaction to something.

I have never ever heard of anyone transmitting herpes via changing a diaper, giving baths, etc.  It takes much more than a simple touch to transmit herpes.  

I think you need to see a good dermatologist for this skin stuff, but I assure you, its not even sounding close to herpes.

Aj

[b38]

Aj,

Please,  I know you think I'm crazy (and maybe I am),  but please just answer these questions for me.  

Can a herpes sore appear on a person's forehead?  I have a terribly itchy red mark that feels/looks like some kind of sore.  
Also, my legs around the outside of the thigh, just below the boxer shorts area are really itching.  I noticed a rash like thing on both buttocks as well.


This is my biggest fear right now - is there any way, if I have something, I could have passed it to my little girl?  I have wiped her, changed diapers and given her baths.  

I know you and everyone else in this forum is tired of me, and yes, I know I have many mental health problems, but have you ever heard of passing something simply from coming into contact with the skin?

I feel so ashamed right now.  I know you all want to help me and have directed me to the psychological forum,  and I will go there,  but please try to answer these questions for me.  I'm begging you for your input.

[auntiejessi]

Blotchy itch sounds like a fungus or dermatitis to me.  

I really do know of people who got stds while in the military - I know of a lot of them.  In the 3 years that I did that job, we had so many we had to set up a contact person on the base to deal with it all, otherwise we were talking to too many people and it was hard to keep track of.  I'm in a small state with a small base, and in 3 years, I'd say there was easily 100 that had some sort of std, and those were the ones that had a reportable std - gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis.  I have no idea how many had herpes or HPV.

Aj

[b38]

Aj,
So what do you think?   About the itchy blotch I mean?  It didn't look like a "blister", but it was itchy.  It seemed to go away and then I thought I saw/felt another one further below.  

Regarding the military, though....do you really know of people with what I'm afraid I might have contracted in the military?  I didn't go to our doctors because I am afraid.

[auntiejessi]

Ohhh ok - I get the unprotected thing now -I thought you meant it was unprotected orally, protected vaginally.

OK so what if this were an std?  What exactly are you going to lose?  You won't be discharged from the military for an std.  Good lord, they'd have no troops left if that were the case.  I used to do partner notification for stds, and worked in an std clinic.  We worked with a LOT of military guys (we have a base here), and even had a contact person on the base to work with to find military folks who were contacts.   You just get treated and move on.

HIV might be an issue in the military, but your chances of getting HIV from a woman are right next to nothing.

Your marriage is a different matter, entirely, and I can't speak of that, since you have a somewhat unique situation.  But as far as the rest of it goes, you aren't going to lose anything, ok?

Now, as far as anxiety and depression - I don't know how the military works with those, but aren't they supposed to be getting better with all that now?  Beefing up the mental health services, etc?  That's what they are saying in the news.

Hang in there, ok?  

Aj

[b38]

AJ,  
Thank you for responding.  However, my encounter was protected and unprotected.  Protected the first time and unprotected the second time....so I guess I just should have said unprotected.   I know I have many issues going on in my life right now.  I'm really afraid of losing everything to this one stupid, stupid, stupid enounter.   I am in the military and am afraid of being medically discharged.

I know I have some other problems (anxiety, fear, depression, guilt), and I'm trying to cope, I really, really am.  I'm not trying to bother you, or anyone else in this forum.  I'm very sorry.  As I said to Dr. HHH, and everyone else, please try and understand my fears and worries.

[auntiejessi]

I don't know what I can say to you that hasn't already been said.  Your doctor thinks it was some kind of bacterial skin thing, and not an std.  Perhaps the antibiotics have caused a fungal infection, and that's what the new spot is.  It might even be another spot for this skin infection.  It could even be irritation from checking it out so much.

You had protected sex, a one time encounter.  Your chances of getting anything are really so slim, and I am wondering why that is so hard for you to understand.

Your own doctor, HHH, several on the herpes board, and now me, don't think you have an std, yet you can't accept that.  Others have suggested that you seek some mental health help, and I have to agree.  If you had these same spots on your elbow, would you be this freaked out?  Usually, when men react this way, its because they are afraid of infecting a partner.  You stated in your thread with Dr. HHH that you have a sexless marriage, so I'm not sure what the big fear is here.  I'd be relieved that you were told it wasn't an std by someone who has huge experience in the field.

I noticed that you posted in the anxiety forum.  I think that's great.  Not only do you have this fear, you have a lot going on personally, and some anger and resentment with it.  While that isn't a topic for this forum, you certainly need to address that.

Good luck,
AJ