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A little embarrassing, but I think I have to ask -- sexual stamina?
Ok, this is a little embarrassing, but I feel like I have to ask.
Are there natural ways to increase sexual stamina? I'm 46, and sometimes I really only last 30 seconds or a minute after penetration. It's frustrating for me, and I know it's got to be frustrating for my wife as well.
I know what you're thinking: "extend the intimacy with foreplay".
Well, I try.
But most of the time she resists me getting "handsy" (as I call it). We think she's going through perimenopause, and so there might be "sensitivity" issues. She's also older than I am (I'm 46, she'll be 53 in a couple of months). But that's beside the point.
I just want to make it a more pleasurable experience for her, as well as myself.
I've heard that masturbation to orgasm shortly before sex can extend sexual stamina, but I think that's more of a band-aid, as it were. And as far as our actual sex life, it's not as frequent as I'd like, either, and even on nights when I think it's going to happen, sometimes it doesn't.
For various reasons beyond the scope of this post, we're still using birth control (condoms).
Is there a way I can increase my sexual stamina naturally without masturbating beforehand every time?
Are there natural ways to increase sexual stamina? I'm 46, and sometimes I really only last 30 seconds or a minute after penetration. It's frustrating for me, and I know it's got to be frustrating for my wife as well.
I know what you're thinking: "extend the intimacy with foreplay".
Well, I try.
But most of the time she resists me getting "handsy" (as I call it). We think she's going through perimenopause, and so there might be "sensitivity" issues. She's also older than I am (I'm 46, she'll be 53 in a couple of months). But that's beside the point.
I just want to make it a more pleasurable experience for her, as well as myself.
I've heard that masturbation to orgasm shortly before sex can extend sexual stamina, but I think that's more of a band-aid, as it were. And as far as our actual sex life, it's not as frequent as I'd like, either, and even on nights when I think it's going to happen, sometimes it doesn't.
For various reasons beyond the scope of this post, we're still using birth control (condoms).
Is there a way I can increase my sexual stamina naturally without masturbating beforehand every time?
Well, unless you see a doctor and talk to them about it, and find out if something is physically wrong that's causing this, it's all going to be a bit of a bandaid.
Premature ejaculation is a form of erectile dysfunction, and there are treatments for it, but no cures unless they can fix something that's physically wrong, and there isn't always something physically wrong.
https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/premature-ejaculation/symptoms-causes/syc-20354900 - in the treatment section, there are some things you can do, like strengthening your pelvic floor muscles, the squeeze technique, etc.
It does sound as if there are other issues that are causing an unsatisfying sex life. Has your wife seen her doctor? At 53, perimenopause is a good possibility, and she may be a good candidate for hormone replacement. That's something she can talk to her doctor about.
You say that you "know it's got to be frustrating for my wife as well." Have you actually talked with her about it? I mean, as a woman, and around your wife's age, I can say that usually, communication is a great thing.
So talk to your doctor, and talk to your wife. I know - it's a lot of talking, but it could be really worth it in the end. :)
Premature ejaculation is a form of erectile dysfunction, and there are treatments for it, but no cures unless they can fix something that's physically wrong, and there isn't always something physically wrong.
https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/premature-ejaculation/symptoms-causes/syc-20354900 - in the treatment section, there are some things you can do, like strengthening your pelvic floor muscles, the squeeze technique, etc.
It does sound as if there are other issues that are causing an unsatisfying sex life. Has your wife seen her doctor? At 53, perimenopause is a good possibility, and she may be a good candidate for hormone replacement. That's something she can talk to her doctor about.
You say that you "know it's got to be frustrating for my wife as well." Have you actually talked with her about it? I mean, as a woman, and around your wife's age, I can say that usually, communication is a great thing.
So talk to your doctor, and talk to your wife. I know - it's a lot of talking, but it could be really worth it in the end. :)
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