Boring dragged out sex :(

[ammanda]

Hello! I am new to this forum.  I am about 21 years old, and been with my partner for 2 years now, (off and on for 9, 2 years solid now).  we have a 6 month old son. and it seems like our sex life is getting very lame :(  We actually had sex the first time in over a week last night and we literally sat there like we didnt know what we were doing.  and then after we did it he wanted to do it again. but he couldnt get off the second time so we had to finish with anal.

my main concern is, my boyfriend is 22 years old, and he saids he HAS to get off everynight or  he cant sleep. Is that true can that really be a problem.   and he saids once I complain once that its ruined and he cant get off? Anyone else have that problem?  

Im just so curious on how to make our sex life better... and my boyfriend is a really long laster. like he goes for an hour and im usually over it and in pain by then, my perfect time is about 25 minutes at the most.  so what can I do to get us on the same page in the bedroom?  thanks

[sweetpea03]

It is absolute BS that he "needs" to get off every night. People can go without sex if they want to/need to and have absolutely no problems. Sex can help people fall to sleep, but it's not needed to do so. If you complaining can ruin a whole night, then he doesn't seem to have very good mental control over his body.

In order to be on the same page, you have to talk about it. Tell him how you feel and talk about what you both can do to make it better. You have to have open communication to make it work.

Also, be cautious of having anal sex. Your anus is not meant for a penis and can cause permanent damage. It can cause fecal incontinence, which would require surgery to fix, if that is even an option for some. I know of a few people who have it now from having anal sex.

[Myron_Long]

His body is probably use to ejaculating once a night before going to sleep. If he sustain from having sex so much, his body will adjust. It's called changing a habit.

If you're not enjoying sex because it's too much, you do have the right to say you're not in the mood. He's not going to leave you. Explain to him how you feel afterwards and if the two of you space it out more, sex will me more pleasureable you and him.

If he needs to get off once a night, tell him to masturbate then...look forward to the next night.

You're right, sex does become very boring when it's done 7 nights a week, 30 days a month, etc.

Spend some nights just doing foreplay. Give him a blo job while he rubs your g-spot and lick your clit or give him a han job while the two of you passionately kiss the night away. It does not have to end in sex all the time.

And too much anal is not good. You need to space that out. You don't want rectum issues. Your doctor will tell you too much anal=anal problems...

If you want him to get off faster, stimulate his mind while having sex. Make more moaning sounds that will drive him crazy and say things like "give it to me now baby, I wanna feel your come now"

Catch my drift...