Should I continue to date a man with a wondering eye?

[Njsweetnlight]

I recently started dating this guy who is great. He takes me anywhere I want to go, movies, bowling, out to eat. I really like him and he seems to be a nice guy. However, the other night we went out to a night club for the first time together and he couldn't stop breaking his neck to look at every girl that walked by him. I felt so disrespected and felt that he didn't give me the attention I should have got while we were out. I feel that if we are only dating and it is early in the relationship than after we commit and have been in a relationship for awhile he will probably cheat or have a hard time keeping his hands and eyes to himself.  Should I continue to date him and see what happens or drop him now before it gets serious. He has been calling me every hour but I haven't returned his calls yet.

[mature_enough]

I would drop him. If that type of thing hurts you now. Imagine how bad it will hurt you once you are attached. (I know it would hurt me.) I'm sorry to hear about the piggish attitude he had on your date. Good luck.

[zelkahmiktez]

Hey! How are you? Have you tried doing the same thing the last time you went out with him? What was his reaction? Is he wearing horse blinders now? Lol!

[Njsweetnlight]

That is funny, I should try that and look at everyone other guy and be very obvious about it to see what he would say LOL!! We are supposed to go out tomorrow to the same place because a group of friends are going and want us to go so this will be his test on Wednesday night. I am going to go shopping and buy something really really bold being that is what the other girls wear and see if he breaks his neck to keep and eye on me ;)

[zelkahmiktez]

That's right, men will be men...so you better keep an eye on him at the same time provide enough space for him . Congratulations you both have each other. I have an email ad.. you might want to send  me notes there, it's ***@****.
With regard to the breaking the neck habit of looking other girls... ummm have you tried  doing it too( i mean looking at the other guys ) ? M just curious, what do you think  would be his reaction? Tell me, ok?

[Njsweetnlight]

Wow that is funny because we kind of did the same thing, pointed out attractive girls and commented on them but later on he continued to break his neck to look at every other girl. I think he did learn his lesson and I do need to monitor our places where we are entertained. We are now officially a couple as of today and don't think I will have to worry about him going anywhere but I will always keep an eye on a man becuase men will be men right LOL!!

[zelkahmiktez]

I can imagine how you feel during that date. But u know what? Many  times, when I was with my boyfriend I was the first one who would always tell him if there's an  attractive women. Both of us would evaluate the woman from head to tiptoe. Then  talk about it with no malice.
Check also how he looked at those girls that night, was it only: for curiosity purpose, or with a sexual desire look... u can sense that , and ask, coz it's your right because  you are his date at that night.
Well, by not responding to his call was also a lesson for him, i think you've made the right move and he deserved a second chance.
Baby, from now on consider also the environment and places of your dates.  Having those kinds of girls around him was like a "bait", it's like putting him in a situation where his respond to a situation will be questioned.

[Njsweetnlight]

Well I did talk to him after he called me all day wondering what the problem was. I spoke to him how he was distracted by his surroundings and he replied that he NEVER went to a night club with a female before and didn't mean to be disrespectful but didn't know what to do and he felt uncomfortable. He said that he wanted to go out again so he could get it right and didn't mean to be disrespectful at all. I said "yah the night club thing will be put on hold for a long time." He has never been like that when we went out bowling or just a regular date so I might consider giving him another chance. I guess if you put a man in a room of half naked girls not all guys know how to handle that. I also think if he had a hard time with that, than what would happen if we were in a relationship for awhile, would he be more prone to cheat? I will have to keep an eye on him carefully to see if he is really sincere or just an average player.

Thanks for your feedback.

[vmvnpv]

I would talk to him first.  He may not realize how obvious he's being looking at other women.  Face it.  When you go on a date his whole attention is not going to be on you the whole time.  He's going to look around, as I'm sure you do too.  But you're more discreet.  He's not.  Breaking his neck to look at other girls is disrespectful.  But like I said, talk to him first.  A lot of guys just don't think and don't realize what they are doing.  If it continues then I would seriously think about dating him anymore.

[iam1butterfly]

He's way too distracted... which is a nice way of saying that he's objectifying women, and at the same time, being insensitive and disrespectful to you. Dating is your time with him; and, his eyes should be fixed on you.
If I were you, I drop him. And, if he asks why, I'd tell him.
It's possible, although highly unlikely, that he's oblivious to what he's doing, which could explain it... but, that doesn't excuse it! After all, there are ways of "checking out" people without being so obvious.