y hasband doesn't want to have sex?

[sameera1]

I'm 35 and my husband is 37 .We are married for 10 years and have three children.He doesn't want to have sex We have it twice a monthe sometimes once .He doesn't have any troubles at his job .I feel disappointed when His erection dies out few menuets after foreplay.Ifel that it is becouse I'm not attractive.He cheated me with other women before four years and we fought and he promised never to do it again and I believed him .Now I think he is not cheating on me but I  don' know why did he loose his sex drive?He is romantic and nice he never hurts my feelings.Five months ago we fought together because I caught him oogling at a woman(I insulted him and called him at his job to call him bad names),I searche his mobile few days later to find a text message he didn't send to me in it he said :just look at he merror to see you ugly ....I was in a complete shock because it was the first time in our marriage he insults me this way.I realy doesn't like that part of my body.I decided to sleep in a nother room with my children .Then I went to my family in a nother town to deliver my baby ,she is now four months.We didn't have sex for three months since then.After that I changed alot I didnt want to have sex with the lights on ,after his cheating I threw all my sexy lingerie because I though he doesn't deserve to see me in sexy clothes and he can feast his eyes with other women if he likes. I'm disappointed ,and angry.He tells me that he is a looser and he is getting old,he says he is having health troubles with his urane.He once had prostate problems but he had medicine and he was ok.What can I do I can organize my thoughts.I can't say more.

[gagootza]

what is it thats not attractive about you? maybe he just wants out of the marriage and looking for every excuse he can find to get you to feel the same.marriage counseling would be the first step but when you both go you both have to be 100 percent honest and don't leave anything out.thats the only way the two of you will find out whats really going on in your marriage and sex life.how old is he and how old are you?if you wish you can reply to me and give me mor details and talk one on one and maybe come up with a solution.good luck

[SeriousSam]

Maybe he has an underlying health problem?

[HockeyShark]

I was just reading a thread by "Ponka" who's wife wont have sex with him...maybe you 2 should meet?

[katarina777]

Maybe he doesn't find himself attractive. maybe you are both depressed? I agree with vance about marriage counseling. kat

[Vance2335]

Maybe he has erictile disfunction, maybe he doesn't find you attractive...don't know why he will not have sex with you. But I would suggest marriage counceling.