Intimacy Problems

[LizzieAv]

I'm 24 year old woman married to a 34 year old male and we share 2 children. We've been together for 3 years and over the course of the past year he completely lost his libido and desire for sex, in the start we had a very active and healthy sex life but now we haven't been intimate in a very long time because he literally has no sexual desire. I have tried to be understanding and supportive as our marriage doesn't have any other issues to speak of but it's becoming a huge issue for me that he isn't doing anything to rectify this issue. He says he loves me and wants to want to have sex but he just doesn't. He isn't cheating or doing anything outside of our relationship he just NEVER wants sex. I just don't know what to do anymore. Sexual intimacy has literally just left the relationship and my desire for it hasn't. What should I do/we do to fix this?  

[AnnieBrooke]

I'd do the hormone workup and then some counseling.  Is there any chance that now that he sees you as a mommy he doesn't see you as a sex partner?  Anyway, get the physical end of things checked, and then in counseling you could possibly ask him if that mommy thing is the problem.

[remar]

Many men can start to have hormone issues, even as young as your husband is. I recommend he see the Dr to have his hormones checked. That could be the problem. Is he under any kind of stress, work problems, anything like that? Stress can kill the libido. If neither of these things are the problem then I would recommend couples counseling. It sounds like you have a wonderful marriage and he does love you. I'm really thinking it could be a low hormone problem.