Hi,
I do not really feel comfortable talking about sex, but here goes: I have no feeling during sex with my husband. I suffer from endometriosis (for which i have had plenty of surgeries already) and sex sometimes can be very painful.we are trying to have another child but i don't ovulate on a regular basis so it's real hard for us with me not enjoying sex, being in pain and not properly ovulating. it's soooo much pressure.
I was raped as a child and while i can get aroused (usually through seeing sex on tv etc or reading erotic novels) and stimulate myself clitoral I don't become wet and neither feel anything through penetrative sex and it feels just "weird" when my husband tries to stimulate me clitoral. We have tried everything. slow, fast, relaxing, taking our time, kissing first, lots of foreplay but nothing. when i do get aroused i mostly don't tell my husband as i am ashamed of it, so clitoral orgasms for me are just a way of relief now. no real joy, it just feels like something that needs venting once in a while.
it has become so bad that my husband now too has lost interest in sex and for him it's just something that needs to be gotten over and done with. He now experiences ejaculation with no climax. it upsets me, as we have been struggling with this for 7 years now.
I have been to plenty of councillors and asked my husband to join but he won't, as he doesn't see anything wrong with himself.please help I am going crazy with all of these hormones and emotions. plus due to all my hormones i have gone from a size to a size 14 and don't feel sexy anymore at all.