Hi, I have always had problems with pain during sex. The size of my partner influences the pain a little bit, as does the position.
I am in a monogamous relationship (over a year now) and this causes problems in our relationship. He is abnormally large (8 inches or so) and we don't have sex very often because of the pain it causes me.
I've been to a gynaecologist, and my GP about this, and they both just suggest we use more lubricant, different condoms, different positions, etc. We've done all that, and at this point use lubricant and no condoms (I am on birth control) we have both been testing for STIs, and came back clean.
I know he hits my cervix, which just feels weird, it doesn't hurt so much. Is that because my vaginal canal is too short for him?
The real problem is the pain about 1" inside. It feels like there is a ridge almost, that he rubs against and that hurts. Afterwards when I urinate it burns, I've bled a tiny, tiny bit once or twice but I didn't bleed my first time. it feels like there are tiny tears, I am slightly swollen and red after sex, like in a bad way.
A nurse once suggested that the problem was with my hymen, but none of the doctors have said anything about it during exams. Is it possible that my hymen hasn't torn for some reason? We've tried alot of different positions and some hurt less than others, doggy style (for lack of a better term) seems to hurt the least.
Any other suggestions on why I'm in pain? If it is my hymen, is there something I can do about it?