One thing to remember is that oil destroys the integrity of latex condoms so a lubricant like KY may be a better choice if using condoms.
Hi Patty, do I take it that you mean that your not ejeculating, I dont think that there are not that very many women how can ejeculate, and as for wetness? do you mean that you are not getting that wet, not to worry theres lots around the normal house that will help, baby oil, olive oil, most female creams as long as there not perfumed, if not the chemist has some.
Good Luck
There are lubricants in tubes that you can insert if you need a lot of internal wetness, but I get the sense that isn't what you are talking about. What are you wanting to come out? Vaginal secretions? Is he expecting you to ejaculate? (some women will with a G Spot orgasm but it is rare).
And to be frank - if you lose your husband over this - he isn't worth having. I was severely sexually pressured in my first marriage and it was a horrible experience, no woman should have to put up with that crap. Thankfully he left and husband number two is not like that at all.