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question on erectile dysfunction? idk
hi im 19 years old, and i have a question about erections
im 5'11" 168lbs, im a personal trainer and i work out daily. im in great shape, but im concerned about this
it's been bothering me fore about a year now. i've only tried to have sex twice, with two different people.
once, was my Ex and we did, once, but before that, i couldnt get up.
it seems that whenever i try to have sex i never get up, im not sure if its the girl, or me, or what? but it just doesnt really go as planned. i'd expect to be raging, but it isnt.
when i wach masturbate it's fine, no problems there, but when its time for a girl, (i AM straight) im all into it, but it just doesnt seem to always go up. or i lose it
im not sure what information i need to provide for someone to make a conclusion, so if you could ask Q's ill be happy to answer. because i have a girlfriend now and i love her to death, and i hope this doesn't happen to us... its really bothering me.
this is really an issue, its stupid kus im only 19, none of my friends have this problem, id like it to be, when i wana have sex, i can.. not when i want to, i have to endure embarrassment while i feel incompetent.
if anyone read this, thanks :s
im 5'11" 168lbs, im a personal trainer and i work out daily. im in great shape, but im concerned about this
it's been bothering me fore about a year now. i've only tried to have sex twice, with two different people.
once, was my Ex and we did, once, but before that, i couldnt get up.
it seems that whenever i try to have sex i never get up, im not sure if its the girl, or me, or what? but it just doesnt really go as planned. i'd expect to be raging, but it isnt.
when i wach masturbate it's fine, no problems there, but when its time for a girl, (i AM straight) im all into it, but it just doesnt seem to always go up. or i lose it
im not sure what information i need to provide for someone to make a conclusion, so if you could ask Q's ill be happy to answer. because i have a girlfriend now and i love her to death, and i hope this doesn't happen to us... its really bothering me.
this is really an issue, its stupid kus im only 19, none of my friends have this problem, id like it to be, when i wana have sex, i can.. not when i want to, i have to endure embarrassment while i feel incompetent.
if anyone read this, thanks :s
Since the people you slept with were new partners, you could just be shy or very nervous about having sex with them. Most people go into the bedroom with a "I have to ***, and I have to make my partner ***" attitude. This is the wrong attitude to have. Focusing on orgasms too much can stress you out, which could have a negative effect on getting it "up." I'm sure if you just try to relax, you'll be fine with your girlfriend. Just take your time and don't think about anything but how great it feels! :) And if that doesn't seem to work, you could be a masochist! But we can discuss that if relaxing and staying calm doesn't work. :) Hope this helps!
Hi,
To me it souinds like a problem with anxiety about having sex. I've had to deal with this myself just about every time I've had sex with new person.Once I'm able to finally relax and can get a semi-hard erection, it gets better once we start intercourse. Then, eventually I'm comfortable enough with the person that I don't have any problems. Now I have a different set of problems, but thats a different issue for me. I'd just suggest taking your time with your girl friend, and don't put so much pressure on your self to perform perfectly. She'll enjoy it no matter how it is. Hope this makes you feel better.
To me it souinds like a problem with anxiety about having sex. I've had to deal with this myself just about every time I've had sex with new person.Once I'm able to finally relax and can get a semi-hard erection, it gets better once we start intercourse. Then, eventually I'm comfortable enough with the person that I don't have any problems. Now I have a different set of problems, but thats a different issue for me. I'd just suggest taking your time with your girl friend, and don't put so much pressure on your self to perform perfectly. She'll enjoy it no matter how it is. Hope this makes you feel better.
im not entirely sure. i mean, i enjoy the foreplay and stuff, but i dont get that feeling of "omg yess" or, recently haven't.
Are you actually turned on when you can't get the erection.. Or are you just not horny at all and therefore can't get hard?
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