weird arousal side effects

[nelly490]

so here's the issue, i've just recently become sexually active with my bf, but wenever he gets me all hot and heavy and can't bring me to orgasm because of his mother. I start to twitch and pant, making me sound like a dog in heat, it's so embarrassing and annoying because my bf doesn't even show his arousal after a while, but i twitch and pant for hours before the twitches finally wear my body down making me sleepy and finally able to settle. Does any1 else have this issue and have a solution, it's really annoying and embarrassing especially around his mom who doesn't kno that we are sexually active. It's hard to hide and really annoying, but again it only happens when i'm aroused and unable to climax.

[NOHARD]

Hi Nelly suppressing your natural emotions is not very good for your body and mind, your one of the women who needs to load when making love, and it wont be until you can do that you can do that, will you able to really enjoy your sex life.
The panting and twitching will go then.
Good Luck
PS suggest you do google Dodson and ross, you can then get in touch with Dr Betty Dodson, I think she will put you straight.
Good Luck

[nelly490]

we both are still looking for jobs, and like the others said the economy sux. and i'm not that young, i just turned 19; nyways, i can't just finish it when his mom is in the house and he's just sitting there. i'm too shy to be that on display, makes my face red just thnking about it. and i can't always hear when his mom comes out of her room. better safe then sorry, i can control the twitching and panting for the short amount of time she's out. but finishing myself in full view of my bf, NO WAY :"> no matter how aroused i am, if he's not doing anything i'll b 2 shy to do it. and it's easier said then done trying to control my moans wen i'm so aroused. :">

[NOHARD]

Hi Remar, Cat and Nelly, look if there in the country, just get outside and let yourself go, in a nice field out in the open air all very good for you both and very natural, and if its late at night try running around naked, its like throwing away all your cares, and if you can find a lake swim naked as well, but best of and not forgetting the good old condom, making love in water is something else.
Good Luck

[remar]

No, of course not. We're all welcome to post on these forums. I understand the economy is hard right now. My concern is that this couple may be in their early teens and not ready for sex and not using protection. Usually if someone mentions parents and still living at home it can mean the poster is very young, but not always.

[LIKEaCATinHEAT]

if you dont mind me saying even if they are in their twenties it is very hard in this economy to get your own place (me being an example)... but yes i am hoping everyone is old enough... and using protection

[remar]

Your boyfriend still lives at home? Are you both very young? I do hope you're using protection.
I agree with some of the other posters. It sounds like you're not being satisfied and you're also embarrassed around his mom. If you're old enough to be having sex maybe your boyfriend can get his own place so you won't have to worry about being disturbed.

[LIKEaCATinHEAT]

your body probably just wants to come... try stimulating your clitoris during sex and try to keep quiet! lol that's the ONLY way I can even come during sex.

[thatquietgirl]

It shouldn't be lasting hours, though.  It's perfectly normal to twitch, pant, etc. during and afterward for a brief amount of time, but it should not last more than a little while.

[nelly490]

i meant i twitch and pant when he suddenly stops in the middle of the lovemaking because we don't want his mom to catch us. Its not in the middle of the action. Its only if i try to continue the lovemaking that my twitches finally stop, but he stopped me again and i felt my face turn a bright red from embarrassment that i couldn't control myself.

[NOHARD]

Hi Nelly, I think your find that your panting and twitching, are you building up to an orgasm, but don't be embarrassed its a natural thing that some women do, if you try and supress it, then you may not reach an orgasm, the problem with us men is we are thinking of what were doing, so to orgasm is not a thing a lot of guys do that often.
Google Dodson and ross, Dr Betty Dodson is a guru for how to orgasm, she even runs life class's on how to masturbate and orgasm, but on site your find lots of helpful info, lots to read, or your could even post Betty.
Do hope this helps.
Good Luck

[thatquietgirl]

Some women simply can't orgasm through intercourse at all, others can but so long as there's some clitoral stimulation from her partner, herself, or even a vibrator.  I also find it's easier if things are better than usual outside the bedroom and I can completely lose myself in the moment because of it.

I don't know what the spasms and panting are, though.  That...is different.  I would consider seeing a doctor.

[MrsPincince]

I may be wrong but I really don't think your panting and twitching are related to the fact that you are sexually active..The only thing I can think of that somewhat close to what you're describing is vaginismus. Its when a women who cannot orgasm because of involuntary muscular spasms which close the opening of the vagina. This would make it VERY difficult for intercourse..I think you should just relax and try to not focus on climaxing and just enjoy the special time with your boyfriend. You will climax eventually...:) IF the twitching and panting continue, you should see a Dr. just to be on the safe side..