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how can i help her
my little sister whoose 13 hates the way she looks she loves her body and face ecept for her nose she has tried everything to break it she said shed do anything for it and has the worst depression she cries herself too sleep doesnt belive it when someone saus she is beautiful but how can she get a nose job for free tshe says shedreams it every night she even has wanted to kill herself my parents dont get her and call her crazy and stuffwaht can i do
i guess i should add on, that although now my nose is scarred and deformed for life, i have found great pride and confidence in it.
when i was a young girl, i was negative towards my nose. i hated myself so much that i would use my nose as a reason. i had always hated it.
then when i was 13 i developed skin cancer on my nose, there was no explanation, it still baffles medical professionals. I was recorded in medical history as the rarest, youngest case in canada and most countries that do not have enough sun. the skin cancer appeared as a tiny hole, looked just like a nose piercing, but it grew rapidly. my hatred towards my nose grew even more.
my negativity was the only thing that cursed me with cancer. i am saying this, because i know the only reason it happened to me, was to teach me a lesson in learning to love myself. but for me, it took years, of extreme pain and suffering to learn that lesson. i hope your sister learns easier.
No one should have to go through the complete horror of undergoing reconstructive nose surgery. I did not have a choice as they cut my nose off, but willing or not, it scars you for life, physically and mentally. you will develop PTSD despite trying not to. surgery is the worst possible remedy.
sure, i was psyched at first, telling them to fix my nose and make it pretty for once.
But what they don't tell you... is the pain.
I enjoyed pain, but this pain was too horrible to endure, and it made me insane.
Secondly, the shame.
the done process of the surgery was enough to make anyone want to mask themselves and go on a killing spree. it is the most revolting, disgusting thing you will ever look at. and you have to be staring at the stitches for months, 24/7 cleaning them, it is the worst thing for your confidence.
would you really want to look at a huge blob of mutilated flesh on your face for the next few years and THINK that will make you love yourself?
they don't tell you, that it takes up to 4 years for it to heal. it is by far, the most disgusting thing ever.
But that is not all, please keep reading on. After the horrific trauma, i barely survived living for those 4 years. i was suicidal and murderous, and it ruined my life. because of that i developed mental health problems.
once i realized it was all because i hated myself, i vowed to become healthy, and start life anew. But this new motivation was driven with anger, and a panic of no control over anything in my life. That is when i developed Anorexia.
Then my life was filled with a never ending series of unfortunate events, of mental illness, and physical illness. I used to think i was cursed.
But i know now, since i have overcome everything, that it was my own negative views that caused every single physical ailment and every single mental problem i have ever had. If you think negatively about yourself, you will destruct yourself. If you think good things, good things will happen.
It may not look like she has low self confidence, but if she never had a nose to begin with, she would pick something else to insult on her. She does have critical issues of lack of confidence and negative views, which is the main thing in the world that harms us.
The power of the mind is greatly disregarded. Your sister needs to think positively, because it is our thoughts which build our future.
Positive affirmations is the answer to everything really. You can cure disease that pronounces you dead, you can cure anything mental, so you can surely cure bad self image. that is the only thing she should be planning to do. if you want to help her, then research the amazing effects of positive thinking, the healing it does, and research how to do positive affirmations.
then when i was 13 i developed skin cancer on my nose, there was no explanation, it still baffles medical professionals. I was recorded in medical history as the rarest, youngest case in canada and most countries that do not have enough sun. the skin cancer appeared as a tiny hole, looked just like a nose piercing, but it grew rapidly. my hatred towards my nose grew even more.
my negativity was the only thing that cursed me with cancer. i am saying this, because i know the only reason it happened to me, was to teach me a lesson in learning to love myself. but for me, it took years, of extreme pain and suffering to learn that lesson. i hope your sister learns easier.
No one should have to go through the complete horror of undergoing reconstructive nose surgery. I did not have a choice as they cut my nose off, but willing or not, it scars you for life, physically and mentally. you will develop PTSD despite trying not to. surgery is the worst possible remedy.
sure, i was psyched at first, telling them to fix my nose and make it pretty for once.
But what they don't tell you... is the pain.
I enjoyed pain, but this pain was too horrible to endure, and it made me insane.
Secondly, the shame.
the done process of the surgery was enough to make anyone want to mask themselves and go on a killing spree. it is the most revolting, disgusting thing you will ever look at. and you have to be staring at the stitches for months, 24/7 cleaning them, it is the worst thing for your confidence.
would you really want to look at a huge blob of mutilated flesh on your face for the next few years and THINK that will make you love yourself?
they don't tell you, that it takes up to 4 years for it to heal. it is by far, the most disgusting thing ever.
But that is not all, please keep reading on. After the horrific trauma, i barely survived living for those 4 years. i was suicidal and murderous, and it ruined my life. because of that i developed mental health problems.
once i realized it was all because i hated myself, i vowed to become healthy, and start life anew. But this new motivation was driven with anger, and a panic of no control over anything in my life. That is when i developed Anorexia.
Then my life was filled with a never ending series of unfortunate events, of mental illness, and physical illness. I used to think i was cursed.
But i know now, since i have overcome everything, that it was my own negative views that caused every single physical ailment and every single mental problem i have ever had. If you think negatively about yourself, you will destruct yourself. If you think good things, good things will happen.
It may not look like she has low self confidence, but if she never had a nose to begin with, she would pick something else to insult on her. She does have critical issues of lack of confidence and negative views, which is the main thing in the world that harms us.
The power of the mind is greatly disregarded. Your sister needs to think positively, because it is our thoughts which build our future.
Positive affirmations is the answer to everything really. You can cure disease that pronounces you dead, you can cure anything mental, so you can surely cure bad self image. that is the only thing she should be planning to do. if you want to help her, then research the amazing effects of positive thinking, the healing it does, and research how to do positive affirmations.
I would say she is unhappy about more than getting a nose job done ,it would be a good idea to speak to your mom about the way she feels , why does she think her nose looks bad has anyone been saying that to her ? She sounds very upset it maybe a good idea for Mom to take her to the Doctor ...
some doctors (including cosmetic surgeons) will do "pro-bono" surgeries under certain circumstances...which means..."for free", and you can ask around town. That being said, I think she needs some counseling. teenagers are famous for depression, but once she starts threatening suicide, whether she's serious or not, she needs therapy and possibly medication.
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