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FEELING HOPELESS ALL OVER AGAIN
Hello, I am 40 (will be 41 in one month). Got married for the first time one year ago. We started seeing a fertility doctor very shortly after getting married in February 2010, My fsh level was running between 4.5 to 6.5.. I did 5 cycles on clomid and got pregnant on the 5th cycle but had a missed miscarried at 11 weeks. Had to start seeing a new fetility doctor because I switched job location so it was impossible to be able to continue with my previous doctor. My first set of blood work at this new clinic showed my fsh at 10. I am devistated since I've never had a fsh reading that high :( I'm now on femera (this doctor does not like Clomid all tht much) and will try that for 3 cycles only since I do not have the time to waste :( I would love to do donor eggs but I live in Canada and I know things are different here with that. If anybody has any experience with donor eggs in canada, I would love to hear from you!!! thankyou and good luck to everyone.
Hi ladies having read alexis post i feel so encouraged but at the same time sad for what she and so many other women have gone through.In our quest to become mothers we will have ups and downs along the way but the successful stories gives us hope to carry on.Alexis you are an inspiration for all us ladies in our 40s.Lots of love and SSBD to all Bev xx
I just want to say, Thanks you have inspired me. Having hormonal surges and needed the boost. :-)
It breaks my heart to keep hearing these stories of hope and happiness and then turning to loss. I know those feelings so very well myself, as I've experienced 2 m/c's in the past year. I had such a hard time reading about everyone else on here doing well and getting pregnant. I had such confusing emotions of jealousy and happiness for them and absolutely overwhelming sadness for myself. There were days I felt I just couldn't get off the very dark road I was traveling. Your feelings are completely natural and normal.
On the brighter side.....I started "trying" when I wa 41, my fsh at that point was 13. My RE didn't have ALOT of hope, but they did put me on femara and gonal-f injections right away, as they said I had no time to lose. After exactly 1 year of fertility treatments and 2 m/c's, my RE just had that really sad and deflated look on his face and finally said the words that I had been dreading......"maybe we should look at some other options". I had a very thin lining that cycle and a huge cyst on my right side (39 mm). I did however have 2 follicles on my left, but the RE said, probably not a good month given all the other issues, . The nurse came in with a pamphlet on donor eggs and my husband I set out to looking right away. he wasn't keen on the idea, but I just kept saying...I'm sick of trying and failing. We selected a donor and I was all ready to report my selection on my next appointment with them. I was so relieved that "finally" i could quit trying and failing. Within a few weeks, AF symptoms started coming on and I thought, here we go, I can get AF and then tell my RE to set us up for the donor program.......AF never came. You would not have believed the look of complete surprise on my face when I saw those 2 pink lines. Then I kept telling myself that this was only going to delay things because I was sure to have a m/c again. I kept waiting and waiting and 16 weeks later...that m/c has never come. I had a great result from the CVS test and everything has been progressing wonderfully. There isn't a day though that I can relax and enjoy the moment....I still worry every single day.
Now I'm sure at age 43, that my FSH is thru the ceiling if it was 13, 2 years ago, so don't ever key into that number, its merely a guideline. Those numbers can flucuate all over the board and just because you lower them, doesn't mean you have more eggs, we have what we have, but with that being said.....you HAVE eggs, and you ARE able to get pregnant. I kept hearing those words from people too and inside said...."yeah right, whatever, I just keep haveing loses", but I am one of the success stories...well so far anyway, and you can be too. We are NOT too old, our FSH is NOT too high, you CAN do this.
I hope and pray that all of us TTC and currently pregnant will be blessed this year with whatever path we choose. No one should have to know the pain that we all know and have been through.
You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
On the brighter side.....I started "trying" when I wa 41, my fsh at that point was 13. My RE didn't have ALOT of hope, but they did put me on femara and gonal-f injections right away, as they said I had no time to lose. After exactly 1 year of fertility treatments and 2 m/c's, my RE just had that really sad and deflated look on his face and finally said the words that I had been dreading......"maybe we should look at some other options". I had a very thin lining that cycle and a huge cyst on my right side (39 mm). I did however have 2 follicles on my left, but the RE said, probably not a good month given all the other issues, . The nurse came in with a pamphlet on donor eggs and my husband I set out to looking right away. he wasn't keen on the idea, but I just kept saying...I'm sick of trying and failing. We selected a donor and I was all ready to report my selection on my next appointment with them. I was so relieved that "finally" i could quit trying and failing. Within a few weeks, AF symptoms started coming on and I thought, here we go, I can get AF and then tell my RE to set us up for the donor program.......AF never came. You would not have believed the look of complete surprise on my face when I saw those 2 pink lines. Then I kept telling myself that this was only going to delay things because I was sure to have a m/c again. I kept waiting and waiting and 16 weeks later...that m/c has never come. I had a great result from the CVS test and everything has been progressing wonderfully. There isn't a day though that I can relax and enjoy the moment....I still worry every single day.
Now I'm sure at age 43, that my FSH is thru the ceiling if it was 13, 2 years ago, so don't ever key into that number, its merely a guideline. Those numbers can flucuate all over the board and just because you lower them, doesn't mean you have more eggs, we have what we have, but with that being said.....you HAVE eggs, and you ARE able to get pregnant. I kept hearing those words from people too and inside said...."yeah right, whatever, I just keep haveing loses", but I am one of the success stories...well so far anyway, and you can be too. We are NOT too old, our FSH is NOT too high, you CAN do this.
I hope and pray that all of us TTC and currently pregnant will be blessed this year with whatever path we choose. No one should have to know the pain that we all know and have been through.
You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Don't give up. Mine went from like 7.6 to 9.8 in 6 months and I was bummed. Still, DH got home in April and I got pregnant in May. 27 wks now. Its just a number, not a definite diagnosis. Sending you plenty of SSBD!
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss and the difficulties you have been going through. There are plenty of women here who have FSH above 10 and still get pregnant. I'm not an expert, but many women here are, and will have some great advice for you. Sherri90049 is extremely educated in this area and will be of great help to you, so you should get in touch with her!
I hope you can work things out with your new Dr. and that the fermara is right for you and helps you get pregnant again. Hang in there, and keep in touch.
I just finished my first round of clomid and it really did a doozy on me and my cycle! I had to take prometrium for 4 days just to get AF! My cycle ended up being 45 days long, which was very unusual for me, since my cycles were normally only 26 days. Regardless of this, my Dr. wants me to still try another round of clomid. I guess I will give it another shot.
~Christine
I hope you can work things out with your new Dr. and that the fermara is right for you and helps you get pregnant again. Hang in there, and keep in touch.
I just finished my first round of clomid and it really did a doozy on me and my cycle! I had to take prometrium for 4 days just to get AF! My cycle ended up being 45 days long, which was very unusual for me, since my cycles were normally only 26 days. Regardless of this, my Dr. wants me to still try another round of clomid. I guess I will give it another shot.
~Christine
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