How many rounds of IVF do you attempt after 5th try at age 45?

[hopefuljourney]

Hello everyone! I am 45 years old and I just tried a 5th round of IVF with my own eggs with no success.  Has anyone my age or older tried IVF with their own eggs as many times as I have had? I don't know if I should continue or just give up.  My husband is not talking very much about what we just went through which makes me think that he might be done but I am afraid to ask. I would appreciate your input.

[mhv]

You could call around to other clinic's in your area.  It wouldn't hurt to ask.  You never know what they will say if you don't.  

[Futuremama2010]

Hi Hon...like you, I have done quite a few rounds!! but I am not close to giving up....as long as I can afford it, even if I end up using all of my savings...I am 43 years old, will be 44 in 6 months...

I always end up with good embryos but have implantation issues....mainly due I think to chromosome abnormalities....I suspect that at our age, its a matter of finding the right eggs....so why not look around for another doctor?

Someone at my clinic was successful after 10 times!  and after that was able to concieve again on her 2nd cycle...

If you want to stop trying because it's getting too difficult, physically and emotionally.... I can understand.....but don't stop trying because of your doctor!

Hugs

[bevfly]

Apart from the cost of IVF and all the added stress that comes with it all,its entirely up to ourselves to decide to carry on or not.We can all give advice and help hoping that it offers some sort of comfort but really,honestly,the only person who can make that decision is ourself.But if it was me and i was 45 and had went through numerous IVFs then i would honestly give up.I think you need a line where you need to stop and my line has unfortunately come to an end.But i wish you all the best of luck in what you decide to do love and best wishes Bev xx

[mhv]

I just wanted to add... you don't have to "give up" per say, you could always look to donor eggs or embryos.  It's just another possible way to become a mom.  You get to carry the child, and you get to reap the benefits of becoming a mom, either the first time, or again.  
I know it isn't for everyone, but, it is an option.

[LaPoo]

I agree that it's a personal decision regarding whether we should continue to pursue our dreams or not. As for me, I've been through clomid treaments, 2 etopic pregnancies and 3 IVF cycles. 1st cycle resulting in an angel baby at 16weeks, 2nd cycle failed and last cycle resulting in pregnancy. It's defintely been an emotional rollercoaster but at 41, I know what I want. I knew what I was getting my self into when I started this process and its been extremely difficult sometimes but somehow, it's become alot easier to deal with because of the ladies on this site. The support I have found from the women on this site has been extremely helpful and refreshing especially as I was going through my miscarriage.

I would say pursue your dreams with reasonable expectations and don't obsess. Stay positive and expect something good to happen. Know your body and make sure you are receiving the best treatment plan for your therapy. Check into other options. Check out the failed and success stories and why they worked or didn't work out. It's not enough to dish out money to the RE's. We have to take ownership. Have a plan B or C and don't give up until you're ready.

A the moment, I don't have a set time to stop but I defintely will not bankrupt myself emotionally or financially. My RE stop's using my own eggs at 45. I have a sister who is 15 years my junior who has volunteered her eggs if needed so I guess I'll continue on until my heart tells me otherwise.

[mhv]

Well said.  I also have heard of a place in Colorado that specializes in "older IVF" and has great success rates.  I have heard it's very expensive, but if you would be willing to travel, and want the best... it may be worth looking into I think it's around 20,000 for a round But they have Very High success rates for women over 40.  It is CCRM (Colorado Center for Reproductive Medicine).