I don't know anymore.

[Mandaz3136]

I'm Miranda and I'm fifteen. Ever since the beginning of this year ive been falling apart more. Whenever a friend and I get in a fight I just break down crying, because I can't stand the fact that I'm mad at one of th people who matter most to me.  And most recently I was dating this really amazing guy he made me extremely happy. It was like I never felt up set about anything. Until the day he came over and accidentally left this poem his ex wrote to him saying that she loved him and missed him and all this stuff. I broke down u didn't come out of my room for a week. Normally this stuff woulnd bother me I usually confront the guy and ask about it. Yet this time I stayed crying and I just let everything good between us fall apart. The guy left me a week ago. Truns out he never felt anything he just wanted in my pants. But I honestly can't let go of him. It's all stupid I know. But on top of all of that I haven't gotten much sleep for the past 3 months. I haven't been eating which is really bad I know. I've also been getting really bad head aches and these panic attacks. The come at least 4 times a day. Should I be worried? Lastly I've given up on trying on everything. I've stopped trying in school, in soccer, and I've stopped trying to even look like I'm happy. I honestly don't know what I should do.

Should I try and get some help or should I just not worry bout any of it because maybe all teens go threw this??

[daretodream]

Hi I am also 15, and I know exactly what your going through. People don't really understand but teenage years are like the hardest, not only are you finding out who you are but your finding out who your true friends are and your starting to want to be in relationships. I know what your going through because I am too. But instead of breaking down more often I have just been getting more quite..and I have a very crazy outgoing personality so it's weird for me when I just wanna be alone or something. I tend to bottle things up and my coping method isn't healthy at all and that's why I'm here. I have to go see a therapist once a week and honestly I'm going to tell you straight up I hated it the first couple of times because I don't trust people, but now I'm starting to know her and she's actually been helping. Even if you just give it a chance you don't have to stay or anything. But I definitely agree with Sladylani, you should see a doctor and get the medication it's not going to change everything but it will make it a lot easier. Things will get better believe me they will, your just at a rough patch. Good luck and if you want you can message me even if you just want to talk. Keep your head up!!

[SLadylani]

Hi, my name is Sara. I can empathize as I so remember being 16!! I felt exactly the same way you are describing! I'm 23 now, almost 24. You sound like me, and you sound like you are having a hard time with relationships, friends and all. What's more, it sounds like you are just having a hard time with life. To a certain extent, that's normal at your age, but what concerns me is that you're starting to loose interest in the things you enjoy. That's a red flag for depression and should be addressed before it gets worse. I didn't address it soon enough and my depression led me to a bad teenage life and into young adulthood. Yes, all teens go through some depression, but if the depression is serious enough, it may require intervention. What you are going through, like I said, reminds me of me, which leads me to suggest that you do go to your doctor and ask for help. I highly suggest addressing this before it gets worse, like it did for me. Your doctor may prescribe you a medication for depresssion, Prozac is most common. This will help you get back to having interest in the things you enjoy again and being yourself again. It does not make you different, like I thought it did, and it does not mean you will have to be on it for the rest of your life. You will still go through the ups and downs of teenagehood, but at least medication will help you from becoming majorly depressed, which could lead to serious things. I also suggest you asking either your doctor, or your school, about seeing a therapist, as I think you could really benefit from this. It really helps to have someone on the outside to talk to about what's going on, that one hour a week that's completely yours to talk about whatever you want and get a differenet perspective and feedback. I have to say that things will get better. 16 was the hardest age for me. Now, I am alnmost 24 and am a happy, gratefull, productive member of this society. I have better relationships, can fiunction, and have better coping skills. I don't hate my life or myself anymore. So I suggest scheduling an appointment with your doctor to talk about these things so you can start feeling better! If you have concerns seeing your doctor, let us know, and we can talk you through it. Good luck, best wishes, and definitely keep us posted!

Sara RN