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[biggirl36]

okayy so i have noo self esteem, i have spent the last three years with a best friend (no longer my best friend) who has purposly tryd to make me feel terrible about myself. she is superrr uberr beautifull and im just average with braces. she has perfect skin, perfect teeth, perfect hair, perfect hight (no boobs :P) and good grades. and gets alll the guys. and she makes me feel lik poo. (long story short no time for examples) i dont want to be her friend anymore and that wont be hard, the hard part is making new friends. which i happen to now be terrible at now that o can barley speak up in a crowd of two anymore thanks to her. im affraid to talk to anyone thinking they might hate me right off the bat! i could say somthing supid or they might not like how i look. im major lonley and i feel lik a loser when im at home by myself all weekend. plz dont tell me what iv already herd: just do it, your great and they know it!, dont be afraid, that stuff dosnt help im questioning myself! i never did b4. i dont know if im pretty (i used to think so untill my ex best friend told me otherwise) i dont know if i act wierd if i talk wierd! i have totally lost sight of who i am!!! help plz

[losingmyself334]

i have extremely low self esteem as well and have recently lost kmost of my friends due to my depression. i have tried suicide many times. maybe we could talk more bc id like to get to know people as well and im not so good at it either.

_roan, 13

[dazedandconfussed27]

i know how you feel, and the only thing i find easy about it, is the fact that i know that it isnt easy. i used to kind of be one of those girls that people looked at, at the mall, school, saw in pictures, and they instantly knew who  you are, and who your friends are. its not that we were popular and ruled the school, we just got alot of attention. and we hid our problems inside or confided in eachother. on the outside im sure we seemed almost perfect;if there is such a thing. // and it took me losing everything and everyone for 4months to realize that i didnt need to rely on them anymore. i am and have always been my own person. its like a plant that is in the shawdows all the time; it doesnt have enough light to grow, and all the taller, stronger, better plants feed off the small plant until it dies. but i didnt want to die off like that little plant in the shade. i wanted to stand out. i stayed in the group, fighting thru hell, waiting and watching for new people. i befriended a boy named chris, and we instantly hit it off. we became good friends, and when "the girls" didnt approve, i didnt care because i would rather have one good friend than all of those backstabbers. im not saying i dont still talk and occasionally hang out with them, i just arent one of them anymore. and as much as that hurts sometimes, i know its whats best for me, so i have to push thru it. but anyways, me and chris got closer, and i met his friends, who even to this day i find totally mentally insane haha. but now i sit with them at lunch, and we all txt and hangout. and even though sometimes i hear the whispers of the words like "*****" and "****" and all that because i sit & hangout with all guys now, at least i ditched the drama.

long story short is that there are other people out there that wont treat you badly, and will stick by you. try to ease yourself into finding them. ask a teacher to pick partners for an assignment, little steps like that, and if you enjoy talking to that person, say hi in the halls and then maybe you can bring yourself to have a conversation with them, maybe befriend them, and get to know their friends. you never know who you could end up being best friends with.

hang in there and just take it slow and take a deep breath and use the hurtfull things these "friends" of yours have said to you as motivation to branch out to others.

[helpless5320]

Hi there, im just an ole grandma, lol! I will say this! Dont let "one" person destroy "you" all that garbage will come to pass and you will look back and wonder, "why" did i even have her as a friend! Trust me, ive been there dear! Teen years are tuff, yes, so true, but, it is tuff no matter what age we are, lol! "Life is, what it is" A royal pain! Right? Remember "who "you are and like yourself! Braces, ahh, dont worry, that will all pass to! Your friend, so what, she gets all the guys! Well, maybe that isnt a good thing, if you know what i mean!! Like the other person that responded to you, i agree with 1 thing! "HUMOR" and laughing about the absurd things in life! Example: Do you like Jim Carrie movies? OMG! For me, an ole heifer, lmao, everytime i watch one of his movies, no matter how depressed i am, that DUDE makes me LAUGH!! I guess i am a big kid myself, just like he is! I dunno if you are going to find my post to you stoopid or what? Just trying to help!! I am on this forum because i have a teen granddaughter that has some serious issues to! We dont even know what to do about it! It leaves everyone completely exhausted! Anyway, try to LAUGH and LAUGH hard! Find something,anything to laugh about!! You will make new friends!! I hope this helped! Jeeze la weeze what a wonderful world!!!

[x89rt]

Let's see if you have heard this before:

First of all, let's get something straight, you are NOT poo. Last time I checked, poo can't ask for advice. All it can do is smell bad, attract flies, and get flushed down the toilet so you are NOT poo.

Second of all, whenever you think of her making you feel terrible about yourself, remind yourself *whispers* she has no boobs *whispers*.

Third, at least when your braces come off you will have perfectly straight teeth.

What else... better average than butt ugly. Um... and since she's not your friend anymore, screw what she thinks about you.

If you think you are pretty then you are beautiful. If you don't, then you are anyways.

And last but not least, go do something fun and look around in your school for people who enjoy the same things you do.

Oh, and before I forget, I usually try to add a bit of comedy and have fun a little when I write my advice, so if any of this offends you, I apologize.

[AlleyCat11]

I know how you feel I just went through the same thing she just might be jealous the best thing you can do is act like it doesn't bother you and don't worry about making new friends it will come naturally if you like the person.

[slim_runderpants1009]

I know exactly how you feel, I used to be in a group and I was the odd one out and they just were constantly taking the "mick" all the time out of me. I have had very low self esteem for over 4 years. When I eventually left this group of friends I had no-one and stood on my own through lunch, break, waiting for the bus etc.. I was socially unaccepted. But I didn't want to be around them anymore. I was on my own for a few weeks, until girls came upto me and started talking and explaining how they saw I was lonely and offered me a spot on the bench. Since then I have gradually started to trust them more and they have become my new group of friends. I was also very self concious about what they thought of me at the beginning. You should do what you think is best, if you hate every minute of being around your best friend then leave, its not doing you any good. There is nothing wrong with being at home on your own at weekends :). People will like you for you and wont see the imperfections if there are any. I don't know if this has helped at all, sorry its my first post on a question.