Waaaaaaah :'(

[Ouchh_nana]

Waaaaah, im 17 years old, and i had/ have a boi that i been in a Relationship for Months going on a year.
we been having some problems. we broke up andd didntt talk for a whole Month but recently we been talkking again. we been going on dates and i go Over to his house alot we ended up having Sex again but i didnt want to since he aint my boifriend. i asked him if he had done it with anyone other than me andd he saidd NOO! couple of days ago we had a Huge argument and he ends up telling me he Did do it with some one else, i am Completely HeartBroken</3 i showed up to his house to talkk but when i got there he was on the phone with another girl:(
i LOVEE him so muchh, we been threw so muchh together. his Family Loves me and its Hardd to stay away.
i Understand that i need to stay way from him because i dont have to be putting up with all this Crap. but i have sooo much Loveee that i just cantt!!!
i Need HELPPPP!!!
what to do, how to Forget him, or Any HELPPP will be Greatt && i will Appreciatee it ALOTTT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thankk youu(:

[Ouchh_nana]

Thank you Very muchhh(:
&& you are Correct.
im gonna back off for a bit && see were things end up to be. ill just keep my self busy with anything that makes me happy(:
i know its not gonna be easy but ill fight for it. theres other guys out there && i just need to meet some.
do you think its Normal to feel Gross out by every guy?? :O i mean i been so use to him that i dont think i can be comftable with some one else.

but ill keep youu Postedd with whatever happeness(:
once again Thankk you((:

[thatquietgirl]

In order to love someone else, you have to love yourself, and part of loving yourself is showing yourself respect.  It's not respecting yourself to go continuously back to a guy who doesn't seem to have the respect for you that he needs to.  If he had good intentions, he would have told you the truth when you asked, not in the heat of an argument.

I know your feelings are strong, and it'll be hard to stay away, but I think that's the best thing you could do for yourself right now.  If you really want to be with him, tell him on the phone that you care about him, but you don't feel like he feels the same.  Tell him it's up to him right now to put in some effort if he wants to be with you and not to call you until he's figured out if he wants to be with you.  Leave it at that.  Don't say anymore.  Don't let him beg and plead.  Just hang up.  And if he does call, absolutely don't give him sex when you don't want it.  If he tries to force you, then you know what he's in it for even if he calls you and takes you on dates and is on his best behavior.  That's just manipulation and lack of respect.  If he doesn't try to coerce or force you when you say no, then use your own discretion when it's right to stop cutting him off.  Just letting him have what he wants to keep him happy/with you even if you don't want it will only hurt your self esteem, and you deserve better than that.

Just remember there are other options out there for you, other options who will respect you for you.  Even if it might seem like he's the one you love, there will be other options when you've gotten over him.  Don't stay with him, if you're afraid there isn't and that's the main thing keeping you tied to him.

Best of luck!