Distraught

[SincerleyMary]

My name is Mary, and I am seventeen. I am at that point in my life where everything is about to change. I am leaving behind a chapter that I was extremely familiar with four about eight years, and now I am about to leave it all behind, I feel like. Not only that, My bestfriend of two and a half years and boyfriend of seven and a half months just decided to break up with me about a month and a half before leaving for the Marines. The break up occured about a week ago. Throughout the day, the heartache tends to lessen and at night it seems I have come to terms with what has happened between my ex and me, but then in the mornings, reality sets in, and I cry. Today I had an anxiety attack and my breathing was shallow. I get about four hours of sleep everyday. I eat one meal a day. I dont find enjoyment in my everyday activites anymore. I feel as if I am stuck in a world that is slowly falling apart, and I am afraid that it will become destructive to my health. My heart is in pieces and my mind is in a whirl. I cant function and no longer feel the urge to want to function for the pain is too unbearable. I dont know what to do.

[meniere135]

It is completely normal to feel this way.  Many compare the loss of a friend or boy/girlfriend to a death.  They are a part of your world - you call them, see them, spend time with them, know things about them and they know stuff about you.  Your lives are somewhat attached and overlapping.  When one leaves the relationship, it leaves an empty feeling - a lost feeling.  You can't imagine life without them and more often than not, you can't imagine anyone else that could be right for you.  Breakups are one of the more painful experiences in life.  But, almost everyone that lives on planet earth gets to go through this.  You're not alone.  Time does heal.  Have a good cry.  Write in a diary.
Talk with a friend or family member.   Good luck;.

[NicoleWyo]

Mary, your words worry me a bit. I think you are obviously depressed at this moment in time. I hope that you aren't having any thoughts of suicide, and please seek help if you are. You have too much life to live to give it up okay? Now going back to your problem, I know this probably isn't what you want to hear but it might help you in a future relationship but, I don't think you should ever invest so much into a person that if they leave it caves in your world. Some might think that sounds cold but there are obvious problems with making someone your ' world '. I wish I could tell you there is some magic way to make your heart un-break, there isn't . I can see how you are scared about the future but don't be, this is the best time of your life. You shouldn't want a bf right now, you should go out and live your life. You do not need a man to shape who you are. Let him go, don't let it turn to bitterness or sadness. Keep the memories that are happy of him and don't regret the experience. I know you are hurting and none of this helps in the moment, take it day by day and please seek help. My first depressed ' episode ' started when I was your age and didn't stop. Don't let that happen in your case. Good luck Mary.