A bit of terror at a tear

[Ela_face]

Hello there, I'm making a slightly desperate attempt at this, but I really do need it.  I hope that someone can help me answer this - Ever since my first time having sex with my boyfriend (neither of us have been with any other partners) I find that my vagina is progressively getting more and more sore as we have sex - I suppose the largest problem would be that he lasts about 15-20 minutes during intercourse, and it's begging to tare my vagina at the opening, which hurts, and it makes me very worried at the same time.  Because of my parent’s values, which I am not against, I am having a hard time thinking of a way to get to the doctor to get my vagina checked out so that my parents are un-aware.  (I honestly cannot say what I am doing unless I want to be kicked out of my house)  I have extremely small red bumps (no puss, or (dis)colored discharge is there.  it looks like the taste buds on a tongue when they are inflamed from a burn) are lining the opening of the vagina without pattern and a little bit on the labia minor, not deep into the vagina, only on the inner lip.  I don't know if this is related to it or not, but I am also having trouble reaching orgasm (I've never done it before though, so that may just be a mental block.  It's adorable, he tries so hard to get me to, which is why he lasts so long) Sorry about this being so wordy, but I haven’t the time to proof read this.

[Bitter_Bite]

May be you should stop having Intercourse until the tear heals.I beleive it should heal with time if its minor, if its a large tear then perhaps you should see the doctor so that you may need stiching inorder to put it in place and prevent infections.Keep the area well clean with water.Try to use lubricants inorder to have dry free intercourse once its healed.As you may know that while delivering the baby sometimes, I mean most of the time women get teared off and soon after the process is over, you are being stiched.
Please get help otherwise the condition may worsen with time if neccesary precations are not taken.
All the best.

[jjsh44]

Hey! I don't know if  you have a planned parenthood near you, but if you do, make an appointment at one. They are there for that purpose. People not wanting their parents to know. You can even get free condoms and birth control sometimes. Also, have you tried lubrication? It really makes a big difference.  Because he takes so long you could just get or already be very dry.  Don't worry about not being able to orgasm. It is alot harder for women to reach them than for men. Women have to be in the mood and feel sexy.  I've been married for 8 yrs we have an awesome sexual relationship but my husband gave me my first orgasm and I've only had 2 in my life. It's nothing he does, he's great, it's me. It will happen and when it does you will know!! Good luck!

[Ela_face]

My boyfriend was actually very concerned as well, and he was talking about paying for it.  Unfortunately, I don't turn 18 until the 17th of April, so I cannot really have the bill placed to myself this time around.  Thank you for the reply!

[jgonzales]

have ur boyfriend take you to a clinic. cant u make ur self a doctor's appointment? are you under the age of 18/.