Multiple Abortions

[funnyornot]

Last Sep, I had a vacuum abortion surgery at 8 weeks and a month later, due to an accident, I was pregnant again.  Because a family emergency, I chose to go for abortion #2 (6 weeks).  After that, I swore I'd never do it again.  BC pills won't work for me.  I tried Mirena IUD but my cervix was so narrow that my GYN couldn't push the IUD even after I took some dilation pills for inducing labor.  So I only relied on the old natural way, since I am in a long term committed relationship, but we all know pull-out is not reliable at all.  A few days ago, I had a positive pregnancy test for the 3rd time.  While I am inclined to keep the baby this time, I am stressed financially and I am not married.  

Ladies, please don't judge me.  I'd never thought this could happen to me, because my cycle is irregular and my doctor told me long time ago that my chance of conceiving is low.  Yet this is the 3rd time I found +++!

My question is: will my uterus have scars after THREE abortions?  if so, can it lead to miscarriage, complications, or infertility later?

Thank you VERY much...any input is appreciated.  I am trying to make a life-changing decision.

[nicole179]

I am currently pregnant, 36 weeks, i never intended to have childern and was going to have an abortion when i found out. however, i could not do it. i am 30 and in 5 yr relationship, not a completely great relationship, but none the less i love him.  though we are not married and i don't even know if we'll make it another year together, i am happy and excited to hold my son i 1 month!!  i agree that there has got to be another way, rather then pulling out, thats like a 50/50 chance.  i don't know how old you are, but i would suggest thinking about having your baby, it has been so amazing to feel and watch my son grow inside of me, good luck with your decision.

[funnyornot]

condom breaks.  it is rare but it happens.  thanks for your sincere advice, but no judgment please.

[PerimenoWorried]

I'm so sorry that you are in this position as it's not one to take lightly and I'm sure that it's causing a lot of stress in your emotions and life.  

I'm not a "pro-life at all costs" advocate as I believe and feel that there are circumstances under which an abortion is lifesaving in a lot of ways and for differing reasons.  

The fact that this could be your 3rd abortion could create some problems down the road for you when you DO want to be pregnant.  I'm sure that the decision to run in for abortions is not a pleasant experience for anyone.  Even if it's only because of the surgical aspect of it.  But, one has to take into consideration that your uterus IS being surgically altered/disturbed with each abortion and that is potentially a harmful thing when looking at future pregnancies.  

I'd talk this over with your doctor to see what the ramifications of this are first.  Of course, bringing a child into this world without the want or need or means to take care of the little one just to avoid a medical procedure is not a healthy entry into this world for that child either.  In this case, I'd have to agree with the previous poster in terms of considering going through with the pregnancy and considering a very controlled adoption process where you have some knowledge of the agency/authorities adopting out your baby.  If you are physically capable, the idea of going through this pregnancy and giving the baby up for adoption may be worthy of some great consideration vs another abortion.  

If I may say, I am not judging you as everyone has their own trials and tribulations in Life.  However, I'd highly consider talking to someone professional about WHY you are allowing this to happen.  Once is an accident....3 times, is simply poor contraception practise and it seems that you may need to find out why you are not insisting that proper contraception be used by either yourself, in terms of an IUD or a female condom or via your partner using a condom and you, a spermicide.  Are you afraid of losing a partner if you request these measures being taken or, are you simply relying upon "chance" out of lack of preparation?  No matter what the reasons (which are your personal reasons), I'd highly suggest that you speak to a counsellor to find out why you are not taking this issue of pregnancy seriously enough to take the necessary steps to ensure its prevention when you are not ready for it.  

I wish you all the best and I hope sincerely that you will get some counselling and give some consideration as to your choices other than another abortion first.  It's not something to be taken lightly for either your sake or the 3 children that you've now conceived.  

[msniki412]

Can I ask why you don't use some condoms???? That would be one of your best bets instead of the pull out method. I am 100% against abortions for myself (but am pro-choice), I do strongly urge you not to go through another one. What about adoption? Couldn't you put your child up for adoption instead of killing it? I'm sorry to sound so blunt, but so many of the ladies I talk to on here go through years of trying to have babies with no success. Only you can decide what you truely want to do. I can only give you my honest opinon. Sounds like God had better plans for you to bless you with 3 times of getting pregnant. Just remember you may have difficulties in the future after having so many abortions. You may or may not have a hard time getting pregnant in the future. Thats all I will say on this topic, I've said my peace.