Be Happy!

[samileigh2014]

Why does everyone complain about possibly being pregnant on here? I would give anything to be in your shoes. Pregnancy is a gift not a curse. Be happy that you get to grow another life inside
Of you!! Yes, it may be scary or hard at times but
In the end it is all well worth it!

Just thought I would point that out.

[samileigh2014]

Thank you all so much! :)

[specialmom]

Nicely put Chima.  

[Chima7]

Motherhood is not for everyone. Like for example, I don't really want any myself at this point. I'm 40 anyway so I think that ship has sailed and that's ok with me. But I get your frustration because it can get really annoying to constantly see  people complaining about having something that you have been trying so hard to achieve for yourself. It can get very frustrating and even though I don't share your feelings about this, I can think of a couple of things I feel that way about too. So, I get it. But it's best to avoid those posts where people complain about their pregnancy cause it will only get you more upset.

Good luck with your ttc and I hope you can have a baby of your own soon. I'm sure you'll be a great mom.

[specialmom]

I'm sorry about your difficulty getting pregnant.  We all have different things that we want at different times.  In my 20's, I was finishing college and beginning my career.  A child would not have been a good thing.  I was very success driven in terms of my profession and would not have been in a good place to give a child the love and care they deserve.  I would not have been thrilled about a pregnancy.  Then later, when I was married and we had planned out when would be a good time to get pregnant, we began trying.  I was in my 30's then.  It wasn't as easy as I thought it would be and I remember the feeling of longing for a child when I didn't want one at all up until that point.  then I had my kids and now I'm back to the idea that a pregnancy would not be something I'd want at this point in my life.  

But everyone is different.  it's so true that when we are having a certain thing going on in our life that is bothering us, we become sensitive to the subject.  

Lori Raptor, my dear friend has chosen never to have children.  She's now 50.  She has the life she wants.  she travels with her husband, has a beautiful CLEAN home (ha ha, but wow, my kids can muck up the house fast!), and is just very happy.  

Some people just don't want to be parents and that is fair.  I did.  but I accept that we are all unique.  peace

[samileigh2014]

I know this post sounded a little one-sided. It's just
My biggest dream has always to be a mom and I just can't imagine a woman not wanting a child. I
understand that some women dont want to be moms. Its just very shocking to see a lot of women complaining about being pregnant when I so badly want a child. I hope everyone understands that I am not trying to be rude or anything like that to any women who are pregnant and arent in a position in life where they can take proper care of their children. I was just upset about seeing all the posts and having an extremely hard time myself getting pregnant.

Under no circumstances would I ever wish to be pregnant.  I have never wanted to be a mother, and would be horrible at it.  I like quiet and free time and having money to do the things I like.  Not everyone wants to be a parent, not everyone should be a parent, and a lot of women simply aren't in a place where having a child is feasible.  For some women, it is an emotional choice to not have a child and for others, it may be that being a mother would cause long term poverty.  It just isn't something that everyone wants.

And I won't change my mind when I'm older.  I'm 67 and regret nothing.

[specialmom]

You're such a smart girl.  I admire your realistic approach to things and making responsible decisions!  You're going to be a great success in life, I can tell, and an awesome parent when the time is right.  peace

[thatquietgirl]

Sometimes, there's the fact that life circumstances aren't ideal for having a child.  For instance, I have known I want to be a mother eventually since I was about twelve.  It was and still is a strong urge and desire within me.  However, right now I have a job that is, for all intents and purposes, minimum wage, and I'm still going to school.  My boyfriend has not yet found a job despite being done with school. I want to wait until I'm done with school and we are married (to happen upon enough financial stability to support ourselves) to have a baby.  We both agree if it happens despite precautions to prevent it, then that's life and it will happen.

Nevertheless, because of life circumstances, I don't want a baby now.  I would feel nervous and a bit scared if I had any reason to believe I was pregnant because I know I can't provide for a baby right now and expect to support that child to the degree the child will deserve if I'm supporting the child and don't get a degree because I can't afford education while working and being a mother.  To me, paycheck to paycheck is not the sort of lifestyle I'd want to subject a child to.  Would I be excited?  To some degree, yes, and probably moreso as the pregnancy progressed.  However, there would always be some degree of apprehension because my life circumstances are not currently where I think they should be in order to have a child.

[PrincessSaturn]

Just what specialmom says, not everyone wants to be pregnant and have kids. There are so many complications that can occur in pregnancy, and some of us do not want to deal with that, or children. Some people do.
Everyone is different.

Good luck in trying to concieve. I know it must be tough

[specialmom]

Hi there.  For some, it's a good thing to be pregnant and for others it is not.  We are all in different circumstances in life.  What would be your dream would be another woman's nightmare and that is just the way the world works.  

I do wish you luck in getting pregnant though.  It's hard when it is taking a long time, I know.  peace