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Am I Just Being Paranoid?
Hi everyone. I'd really like your input on this!
I've been lying awake for the past 2 hours worrying myself to death, and I need confirmation either that I am being paranoid, or am pregnant.
About 3 days ago. I began having oral sex with my boyfriend - no vaginal or anal penetration of any sort. I am completely positive of his lack of STDs or AIDs, and I have recently had an STD check, so we did not use a dental dam.
After he ejaculated (in my mouth - no other contact with the ejaculate), he proceeded to finger me. He assures me very often that he never touched me with any hand that came in contact with any of his precum, and I do not remember him touching the fluid at any time. However, after he would precum a bit, he would masturbate to ejaculation with me finishing for him and swallowing. He masturbates with his left hand, but used his dominant right hand to finger me.
I cannot remember any kisses being shared directly after, and he did not give me oral sex.
However, I've been very anxious and frightened lately, and I would like someone else's opinion on this. Does anybody think I may be pregnant? I am on birth control and still have approximately 2 weeks until my period is due. However, I recently missed about 4 pills due to problems with the prescription. This was about 8 - 9 days ago.
I've always prided myself on being very careful about protecting myself against pregnancy, but I am still quite worried. I'm very knowledgeable about sex, but.. I am a teenager, and a virgin, so I am more than a little scared about all of this.
I've been lying awake for the past 2 hours worrying myself to death, and I need confirmation either that I am being paranoid, or am pregnant.
About 3 days ago. I began having oral sex with my boyfriend - no vaginal or anal penetration of any sort. I am completely positive of his lack of STDs or AIDs, and I have recently had an STD check, so we did not use a dental dam.
After he ejaculated (in my mouth - no other contact with the ejaculate), he proceeded to finger me. He assures me very often that he never touched me with any hand that came in contact with any of his precum, and I do not remember him touching the fluid at any time. However, after he would precum a bit, he would masturbate to ejaculation with me finishing for him and swallowing. He masturbates with his left hand, but used his dominant right hand to finger me.
I cannot remember any kisses being shared directly after, and he did not give me oral sex.
However, I've been very anxious and frightened lately, and I would like someone else's opinion on this. Does anybody think I may be pregnant? I am on birth control and still have approximately 2 weeks until my period is due. However, I recently missed about 4 pills due to problems with the prescription. This was about 8 - 9 days ago.
I've always prided myself on being very careful about protecting myself against pregnancy, but I am still quite worried. I'm very knowledgeable about sex, but.. I am a teenager, and a virgin, so I am more than a little scared about all of this.
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If telling someone who would listen and help one feel a bit more secure was against the rules on MedHelp, it would have no posters. :)
ps -- pouty boyfriend who is getting sex should be reminded that you could stop having sex, and then he'd really have something to pout about.
ps -- pouty boyfriend who is getting sex should be reminded that you could stop having sex, and then he'd really have something to pout about.
You really seem to have hit the nail on the head with your post. I'm very well informed on all things sexual (the scientifical parts, at least.. I have not had much practice), and this post is mostly for my peace of mind.. And to be able to tell someone who will listen and help me feel a bit more secure. I hope that is not selfish of me...
Hah, actually, I do quite enjoy giving oral sex - most of the activity is brought on by my instigations.
I feel quite reckless for doing this when I'm not covered, but I suppose I was sure I'd be safe. Next time we have any encounters, I want to tell him to go wash his hands.. Although he acts all pouty if I do that. Heh.
Any other opinions are very much welcomed, but thank you two for your posts. They've helped my peace of mind atleast a bit.
I feel quite reckless for doing this when I'm not covered, but I suppose I was sure I'd be safe. Next time we have any encounters, I want to tell him to go wash his hands.. Although he acts all pouty if I do that. Heh.
Any other opinions are very much welcomed, but thank you two for your posts. They've helped my peace of mind atleast a bit.
I agree with annie, your odds does seem pretty low. You will have contraceptive cover if you have had 7 days worth of 'active' pills or if you started your pills on the first day of your period. Although there is a slight chance of failure with the pill (about 0.3-8%), i think your risks are very low since that is the failure rate with unprotected sex and ejaculation inside. However, if you are still anxious wait another week or two and get a pregnancy test, however, i would be very surprised if it was positive.
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Well, frankly, it doesn't sound like you are pregnant. I would try not to have sex after missing 4 pills, though.
Pre-ejaculate is said to be safe, but if they guy has ejaculated before that point, there could still be sperm in his urethra and then the pre-ejaculate wouldn't be safe. Though you do oral sex and strive to keep the ejaculate from going anywhere else, your sexual activity is not quite limited to the mouth only, it's mouth and hands. As you said, you just don't know exactly what is on the hands. Given all of that, in a month when you have missed 4 pills, avoid all this (the carefully calculated not-quite-sex) until the next month.
Anyway, given what you have described (gee, I hope it's fun for you -- it doesn't sound very fun) it doesn't sound like you had contact enough to get pregnant. Plus, whether or not you have missed 4 pills, even if that caused you to ovulate, you will only be fertile for about 24 hours in your month. So, again, probably pretty low odds.
Pre-ejaculate is said to be safe, but if they guy has ejaculated before that point, there could still be sperm in his urethra and then the pre-ejaculate wouldn't be safe. Though you do oral sex and strive to keep the ejaculate from going anywhere else, your sexual activity is not quite limited to the mouth only, it's mouth and hands. As you said, you just don't know exactly what is on the hands. Given all of that, in a month when you have missed 4 pills, avoid all this (the carefully calculated not-quite-sex) until the next month.
Anyway, given what you have described (gee, I hope it's fun for you -- it doesn't sound very fun) it doesn't sound like you had contact enough to get pregnant. Plus, whether or not you have missed 4 pills, even if that caused you to ovulate, you will only be fertile for about 24 hours in your month. So, again, probably pretty low odds.
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