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Pain during first time sex
Hey guys! So, I've tried to have sex two times, but have miserably failed, since whenever my partner tried to go in, there's an immense pain and he can't even go more than 3-4 cm... The pain is so intense plus somehow I can't let my muscles relax even if I want to.. even if I'm wet or use lube, it just doesn't happen... What to do?
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Does it happen when you have a pelvic exam at the doctor as well?
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I have never really had a pelvic exam, but I guess it would happen, yeah..
I ask because if you had an actual physical septum or other body fluke that was preventing entry into the vagina (and if you did, it would be rare), it would be an issue in a pelvic exam as much as during sex, but if it doesn't happen during a pelvic and only happens during sex, it would suggest you don't have a physical block to entry. (I assume you could test this idea just by putting your fingers deeply into your vagina.)
What is your age? If you never have had a pelvic exam, it sounds like you're not on birth control. Any chance of seeing a doctor? One thing that can make someone too nervous to relax during sex is the fear of getting pregnant. There's also performance anxiety, which can make it difficult or impossible to have sex. If the issue is anxiety causing your vaginal muscles to tense up, you might also have that during a pelvic exam, but at least the doctor could confirm you don't have anything unusual about your anatomy, which might ease some of your worries.
If you're under age, probably the best idea is to not try to have sex until you can get some protection. Condoms are better than nothing, but they are only 80% effective, and if you are tensing up this much it sounds like your body knows more than your mind about the wisdom of having sex right now.
What is your age? If you never have had a pelvic exam, it sounds like you're not on birth control. Any chance of seeing a doctor? One thing that can make someone too nervous to relax during sex is the fear of getting pregnant. There's also performance anxiety, which can make it difficult or impossible to have sex. If the issue is anxiety causing your vaginal muscles to tense up, you might also have that during a pelvic exam, but at least the doctor could confirm you don't have anything unusual about your anatomy, which might ease some of your worries.
If you're under age, probably the best idea is to not try to have sex until you can get some protection. Condoms are better than nothing, but they are only 80% effective, and if you are tensing up this much it sounds like your body knows more than your mind about the wisdom of having sex right now.
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