I believe this to be a new experience. I hope it hasn't happened with my lover (now ex so I cannot ask him.) I masturbated recently with a plug in back massager. I was a little more aggressive than usual because I am missing my present honey and can't use the usual fantasy to get aroused- I can only think of missing him. Anyway, I know I urinated BEFORE climax and it was shocking because I felt no desire to urinate or the release of the pee. I am now terrified! I had no sensation of the need to urinate. I did not feel myself urinating but was able to stop once I realized what was happening. I am 42, have three children 16 and older and fear this is a medical issue. I am in excellent health though with strong kegels so I do not understand. I don't believe I have a bladder infection or any kind of illness, no discomfort. It didn't smell like pee but there was a lot of it and I was able to stop with a contraction, it was before climax. What the heck!? I will see my doctor about this but until then, help?!?!