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Hints needed on orgasim during intercourse

I was with the same partner for 12 years and had not once had an orgasim during intercourse the only way i can was foreplay and never really had urges. At the time i didnt really care i thought thats the way its suppose to be until i met someone that makes me have urges just by a kiss. So any advise you can give me would be much appreciated.
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I have only one recommendation- I had my first orgasm like this, so I'd suggest it for you to try with this new hubby of yours.  I would suggest you have sex with you on top, and have him touch your clit while you ride him.  Don't have him stop until you come... that's what I'd suggest :)
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here's a great one if you like oral sex. have him lick your clit while he fingers you. best orgasm EVER!
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Very few women can come from intercourse alone. Most (like 70%) need direct clitoral stimulation, which intercourse doesn't normally provide; so if coming then is really important to you, either of you can use your hands or a vibrator on your clitoris during intercourse. You can also certainly alternate intercourse with oral or anything else you like.
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Lol I totally agree....that is the best way to orgasm...
it just teases the hell out of me....

but also i like it when im on top and mypartneer sort of lifts like a sit up....and holds my buttcheeks hehe lol its
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bearhitch is right just i dont use my husbands fingers at all times. i position my clit on his pubic bone so that when i go back and forth it rubs on his pubic bone (i also use a little fantasising)(spelling?). i can now orgasim within 5 minutes. i also thought that it was normal not to orgasim but it sucks when your body wants to but you dont get to. it is kind of like blue balls! once i figured out how to i actually enjoy and look forward to sex. hope all goes well.
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Well I have never had that problem. I have been having sex with the same person for 5 years and we have sex almost everyday and I get off more then he does. I think the #1 one thing is having chemistry or passion with the person your having sex with. You can have sex with who you think is good looking or buddy buddy but that doesn't mean there is chemistry or passion. Have your partner work for it. A lot of men the first couple times will work for it and then after that they know its available so the will just take at will. You want him to kiss  you with a passion 4play. After you start kissing passionately the clothes start coming off but just don't go straight for intercourse do a littl hand action or oral action not for to long though just enough to get both of you going and then slide over on top of him. One really good position and I have learned it works really good for women who have a hard time having an orgasm is do it like cowgirl( you on top) but backwards to wear your butt is facing his face lean  on his legs to wear you are down a little but still sitting up and start having fun. What happens is  his penis doesn't face down when it is hard it goes out and slightly up. So this way you get strong penitration and as you move it is massaging both your Gspot and your Clit. Anyway try it and let us know. Good luck
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You dirty , dirty, girls! lol, lol. i can't help, but answer this one.  It's importand that he hits the "spot". For me it feels like I have to pee for a sec.then whammo.......... there are so many different positions you can do. have you ever seen a karma sutra  (check my sp) book. You might be able to find info on the net about it. Good luck!
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okay lucy girl, i thought you never had "one" before? are you pullin'the wool over our eyes???
besides, i'm takin'this ALLLLL in! i can "do it" myslef but not during sex. so i am appreciating all of this advice. i have AF now so when she leaves, i just may try some of the positions. never have i ever had one during sex. i am sooooo deprived!
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Thank you everyone for your help. I'll let you know what happens. Thanks again for thaking the time to help. :)
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hey girl...
just curious if there is one particular post/advice you are "partial" towards? any one you will try 1st? just curious. i know theres a couple i will give a "go" hope it works for me too!
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I told ya'll my hubby would be home this weekend. lol . this might be to much info, but we went out sat. night. had a little too much fun if ya know what i mean. I had asked my cousin (total nympho) about what we all had discussed. she gave me a karma sutra book. OMG!!!!!!! I have been missing out on so much in life! You wouldn't believe all that stuff!!!! Some stuff i just flat out coldn't do, to old I guess. He must of liked it too cause the whole weekend he was on me like a dog on a bone! I would recommend it to everybody!!!! I got the advice from a woman who has been married 20 years and they STILL  do it every night.with tools too!!!! I promise you it is possible! I thought i was ging to pee on myself then it was like i ws going to explode. .My husband felt like king of the jungle. now, I have to go all week!!!! She's not getting that book back!!!
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I thought I was the only one who couldn't have the big O.  I get so close to coming when he's giving me oral but for some reason I can't and I dont know why.  I tried to talk to my dr. a few years ago but he wasn't helpful at all.
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I've said it before and I'll say it again, if you are coming close, hold your breath until you explode.  IT WORKS I PROMISE!
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i have had three orgasims were i just poored all over his stomic, now what am i broke all i do is dry up nothing works any more not dickin me or lickin me what can i do all he wants is for me to *** all over him
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is your new guy circumcised?if so he can try restoration or reconstruction.

The study concluded that the uncircumcised penis glides within its sheath of moveable skin with minimal friction. Because of this, uncut men use shorter thrusts than cut partners, who drive more deeply to launch an orgasm. The shorter thrusts of uncircumcised men, according to 71 percent of the respondents, allowed more contact with the mons pubis and clitoris, creating more orgasms for the women.  
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this is the first time I have been on this site and I am taking it all in. I have never had an orgasim during sex and i want one so bad. My partner has a large penis and he knows how to use it because it feels so good...and i come so close after about 30 forty five minutes he cums and I am left wanting. I have tried being on top, forward, backward, doggy, and missionary. I can have one by myself but never with him. He is circumcised, and he tries to make me *** but I never do. Now I am a big girl could that have anything to do wit it. Help please I dont know what else to do.
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This is all great information I only had an orgasim once and that was because I was creeping with my neighbors boyfriend and the excitment drove me crazy and his penis was off the hook goooood!!!!
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have him pin your legs behind your head and be real deep in side you and reach down n play with ur clit or have him on top laying on you almost lots of pressure and bend your knees and move your body like a snack up and down like slither your hips up and down while hes pumping you. lol this sounds like porno
i have always had trouble orgazin and i found this works best and oh does it and be really really horny by the time you start having sex kiss and touch for a while dont just jump in bed men can do that i cant make sure your really wet and horney when you become horney your vagin walls swell with blood and your vagina long gates
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this is all great information, i will try it all.  thanks for the porno lol.
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ok I thought i would jump in here an throw my 2cents....I have always came close but i to have never had an orgasm unless i was on top, but what i like to do now is doggy an i just play wit my clit myself an while he does his thing im doin mine an we both get it, an if u r to affraid or embarrased do it at night, he'll never know what ur doin, an when u say the words "im about to ***" he'll think he th esh*t...lol

good luck girls, an i'm gunna have to try that book out
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I've never had one during sex either!  I always feel like I'm going to, but then I start to feel like I'm going to pee!  I'm so freaked out that I'm going to pee, that when i reach that point, I can't have an orgasim.  Also, alot of positions that I've tried, it hurts.  I don't know if I just have a weird vagina or what.  But its hard work to ahve an orgasm  
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most women cannot orgasim without stimulation.  I think it is like 90% of women.  
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I am new to this site, simple because I was told that I was not that great in bed because I don't move all that much. I have tried many positions and none of them really work for me. The one that I have tried is the one that BriannasMommy suggested and that one does work for me however; the problem that I have is the lack of movement and change. That is what is leading to the lack of good preformance in the bedroom. I pratice alot almost everyday, but just like most of the women on this site I have this really intense feeling and it lasts for a while but never goes away or feels like an explosion, like everyone is saying. I would love to try different positions but so far none of them seem to do anything for me. If you have any suggestions that would be great. Thank you.
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i am a 23 year old that has been sexually active for a couple of years and i can't have a orgasim. i mean i love sex and everything that comes along with it. it is just not happening for me. what should i do?
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