Maybe you should go to the doc, and explain the situation. There are different shapes and sizes of the pelvis. You may be more narrow than most, making it feel like blockage. Pain during sex is also related to yeast infections. Just some ideas, hope they help :)
What you describe could be a vaginal vault prolapse. This happens sometimes after hysterectomy and means that the top of the vagina is collapsing downward. Depending on what part of the vagina is collapsing, it can take the bladder and urethra; rectum; or a loop of small or large intestine with it. Please do whatever you can to get in with your gynecologist, and tell your husband he has to stop if he meets with an obstruction. And no more rough stuff! IF that's what's happening, it can be surgically repaired.
Thank you for reply
I will do my best to see a doctor as soon as i can get the insurance to help pay for all the other doctors i seen. I never thought about the vault prolapse before. Untill you told me i read all about it and it does all sound familiar on what i am going through. again thank you both for replying and for your thoughts on what can be the problem..