Ive just never spent the nights in an empty house before. He is unsure of weather he will be deployed yet or not. Its up in the air, he may be deployed in april though. He also is going to Califoria for training for 2 months straight. Also in the field, I believe no contact.
That's good. I'm sorry that you won't be able to contact him. But at least he's just in the field. Will he be deploying after that? Or are you just worried about the time while he's in the field?
Thanks so much. I have had him gone and I did enjoy putting together a package for him. I cant this time as he will be in the field. So no contact.
Those are awesome things you did. I might have to do the same!
I will definitely be on here to talk to all of you at 2 am!
Here are a few things that helped me. First, build a support group for yourself. Whether in person or not. I started a mentoring group online and formed some amazing friendships.
Nights are the worst. Don't watch the news. Ever. It's just easier that way.
Fill time with care packages. Get creative. It will help you think of him, but in a more positive way. Sometimes it gets really hard to NOT dwell on all the fears. But this helps. I made funny things for my husband. Examples:
-a pair of white boxers that I "made" I had my handprints printed on the bum cheeks and over that it said: Property of Mrs. Pace It made him laugh.
-I tore up tiny strips of paper and wrote my favorite memories on each strip. I rolled them up real tiny and put them in an unused pill bottle. I made my own label that said: Missingyou's. Directions: take one any time you are feeling lonely or missing me
-First Year Home Coupon Book. I made 365 coupons for him to redeem when he came hom. He loved it.
Those are just a few ideas.
Find friends that are truly there for you. The nights were the worst for me. At 2 am when I couldn't sleep. Find friends that you can call and talk to. To cry to, vent to, scream to, laugh with..... people who can help. It does wonders. It really does.
And please remember that I'm here if you need anything. I've so been there. More than once.