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Frottage concern
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I know this question has come up but this figured I'd share my experience for feedback. Went to a M2M massage parlor. Masseuse and I ended up engaging in light frottage for about 2-3 minutes, I was on top. I rubbed both of our penises together lightly jerking with mostly our shafts touching (not so much the heads). I ended up finishing fast and ejaculated on my stomach. Prior to this he was rubbing me down and touching me all over, including my anus.
A day after, I started feeling tingling mostly in my penis. It's on and off. I also feel it sometimes in my anus. It really all feels internal, no itching anywhere, no sores (I keep checking). Mild pelvic discomfort at times. No burning when I pee. Maybe the head feels a bit off at times, wouldn't say burning but it's more of a discomfort. I'd assume burning would be more evident. However, there are times when I'm distracted that I forget about it and once I remember is when these feelings occur so I'm also thinking it's all mental.
Anyways, wondering what the risk of HSV2 (or anything else) would be. I have HSV1 for what it's worth. I am HPV vaccinated so not too concerned about that. It's been exactly a week since the encounter and it's only been the sporadic tingling and discomfort. I also had a similar scare from oral about a year ago and went and got tested for everything but when it all came back negative, suddenly I stopped feeling of the symptoms.
I know this question has come up but this figured I'd share my experience for feedback. Went to a M2M massage parlor. Masseuse and I ended up engaging in light frottage for about 2-3 minutes, I was on top. I rubbed both of our penises together lightly jerking with mostly our shafts touching (not so much the heads). I ended up finishing fast and ejaculated on my stomach. Prior to this he was rubbing me down and touching me all over, including my anus.
A day after, I started feeling tingling mostly in my penis. It's on and off. I also feel it sometimes in my anus. It really all feels internal, no itching anywhere, no sores (I keep checking). Mild pelvic discomfort at times. No burning when I pee. Maybe the head feels a bit off at times, wouldn't say burning but it's more of a discomfort. I'd assume burning would be more evident. However, there are times when I'm distracted that I forget about it and once I remember is when these feelings occur so I'm also thinking it's all mental.
Anyways, wondering what the risk of HSV2 (or anything else) would be. I have HSV1 for what it's worth. I am HPV vaccinated so not too concerned about that. It's been exactly a week since the encounter and it's only been the sporadic tingling and discomfort. I also had a similar scare from oral about a year ago and went and got tested for everything but when it all came back negative, suddenly I stopped feeling of the symptoms.
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There is a chance for hsv2 and syphilis here, but not a huge chance if the frottage was just light touching.
It usually takes heavy rubbing or grinding, usually the kind associated with intercourse, to transmit hsv2, and syphilis needs a sore to be present to transmit.
Also, with both, you wouldn't have symptoms the next day. Tingling is most often associated with anxiety, and not an STI.
Since you forget about it when you're distracted, that lends itself to anxiety.
Herpes testing is loaded with false positives on the hsv2 IgG, so unless you see any actual sores, I wouldn't test for it. You can test for syphilis at 6 weeks, but if your partner didn't have sores, I wouldn't bother with that, either.
Good for you for getting the HPV vaccine. :)
It usually takes heavy rubbing or grinding, usually the kind associated with intercourse, to transmit hsv2, and syphilis needs a sore to be present to transmit.
Also, with both, you wouldn't have symptoms the next day. Tingling is most often associated with anxiety, and not an STI.
Since you forget about it when you're distracted, that lends itself to anxiety.
Herpes testing is loaded with false positives on the hsv2 IgG, so unless you see any actual sores, I wouldn't test for it. You can test for syphilis at 6 weeks, but if your partner didn't have sores, I wouldn't bother with that, either.
Good for you for getting the HPV vaccine. :)
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Thanks for your feedback.
It’s now been 12 days since the encounter. Still no sores but I am still feeling warmness, slight burning (not with peeing, mostly just sitting down and its in my testicles/anal area) and I have not had any desire for intimacy like at all. I feel like my anxiety is at an all time high. I’m not sure if its just mind tricks or an actual issue.
With these symptoms and the time period, is it likely I wouldve had some type of bumps/sores by now? Getting worried.
It’s now been 12 days since the encounter. Still no sores but I am still feeling warmness, slight burning (not with peeing, mostly just sitting down and its in my testicles/anal area) and I have not had any desire for intimacy like at all. I feel like my anxiety is at an all time high. I’m not sure if its just mind tricks or an actual issue.
With these symptoms and the time period, is it likely I wouldve had some type of bumps/sores by now? Getting worried.
Again, this sounds like anxiety and a hyper-awareness of the area. It doesn't sound like anything else. See your doctor if you are so concerned.
Thank you. Last question (promise): are you saying that given my symptoms, real or imaginary, I would probably have seen some type of sores by now?
The typical time to see sores is 2-12 days, but that's the average, not a hard rule.
I'm saying that you barely had any risk, and that vague symptoms like yours - warmness, slight burning - are often anxiety and a hyper-awareness of the area.
I'm not saying these symptoms are imaginary, either. Anxiety produces very real symptoms. It might be from checking yourself often, or from holding your body with tension, or a constant awareness of the area, or a combo of those, even increased drinking alcohol or caffeine to deal with the stress of this.
I'm not discounting your symptoms. You shouldn't either. Even if they are from anxiety, it's a sign that you need to do something about that. Your mental health is as important as your physical health. I'd guess that anxiety isn't new for you.
You also said that you don't feel like being intimate. That's not a symptom of any STI. That's emotional/anxiety/guilt. Talk to your doctor about treatments and counseling.
I'm saying that you barely had any risk, and that vague symptoms like yours - warmness, slight burning - are often anxiety and a hyper-awareness of the area.
I'm not saying these symptoms are imaginary, either. Anxiety produces very real symptoms. It might be from checking yourself often, or from holding your body with tension, or a constant awareness of the area, or a combo of those, even increased drinking alcohol or caffeine to deal with the stress of this.
I'm not discounting your symptoms. You shouldn't either. Even if they are from anxiety, it's a sign that you need to do something about that. Your mental health is as important as your physical health. I'd guess that anxiety isn't new for you.
You also said that you don't feel like being intimate. That's not a symptom of any STI. That's emotional/anxiety/guilt. Talk to your doctor about treatments and counseling.
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