Your story is my story except for the new partner. I was married for 20 years. His jealousy and abuse continues to this day 5 years post divorce. I will never ever take another partner nor have a liceoutside of my kids. I have no bruise or visible damage. It is mental and emorional abuse he has slways been this way. I could not have girlfriends l et alone male friends. The things he has called me are the most defiling, disturbing, damaging a nd long lasting words ever and they were / are repeated continually. My damage is done. He plays a very good victim and has used this to win our 4 kids over. He has told them awful lies about me. I have no purpose but the kids now and forever. I'll never trust anyone again nor will he ever allow it. The divorce was just a piece of ****** pa per that means nothing to a narcissistic arsehole who's insecurities are insurmountable. Dvo? Pda? Just paper. It's all just pointless. Enjoy your new life and partner. Try to remember the person you innately are and that you deserve a life and happiness and love xx. You asre worth it.
he wants you back but the same things he did to lose you he's still doing. he hasn't changed from being a meanie and never will w/out help. as mami suggested, cut off all the contact. oftentimes, for these men that are fixated/obsessed, not having to see you or hear your voice helps them out a little. don't be surprised if you have to take it to the next level and get involved in the legal processes of getting rid of him. stay safe and alert
Oh geesh, he sounds similar to my best friend's husband. First of all, you need to keep all evidence of harrassment, text messages, letters, phone messages. Document all the times he says or does something harrassing. You can 1 use that to get a restraining order or 2 you can even sue him for harrassment. Here is the thing, you share children. My suggestion is not to be in contact with him at all, even when it comes to the kids. See if you can get a third party to help with drop offs and pick ups, have it be at a location that is in public. You can go to court and have the judge implement a drop off and pick up at a police station or somewhere that does not allow him to bother you. But I would avoid him all together. If he's calling your new man, have your new man save the messages but change his number. This guy is abusive and disturbing to say the least.
the man sounds nuts. have you thought about a pfa or restraining order against him? it might give you some peace and quiet. and if he does contact you or go within so many feet of you he can be tossed into jail. or file harassment charges. keep all the calls, messages, voicemails as proof.
he needs to move on and let you go. you're ready for that next phase of life and it doesn't involve him. he needs to realize this.
Well, if your ex wants you back, he's certainly going about it in the wrong way. His hostile and venomous behavior is only proof, to the new man in your life and to those around, what a pathetic loser he truly is. Minimize your contact and communication with him and, ignore his stupid comments.