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Abusive drug addict mother's child need help

My mother is an extremely angry, crazy,abusive drug addict . I'm pretty sure she has Schizophrenia. She won't admit to anything :/ she almost killed my sister forcing us into foster homes. I'm over 18 now. I have no friends or family to count on. I've been poor all my life so I don't have any savings. I am in college. I'm living with her but I'm so scarde for my safety I don't get any sleep from her yelling at me all night about the government & all kinds of crazy stuff. HOW CAN I GET OUT IF HERE?! I don't have enough money from school I work too but still don't make enough to live on my own. Also how can I get her medication & help :/ she won't admit to anything so it's hard.
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Also she is A drug dealer drawing all kinds of scary people to the house . Her abusive boyfriend has gone to jail 4 times already from trying to kill is. They just keep letting him out :(
I'm scarde I could get in trouble for her drug dealing or hurt by one of her crazy friends
535822 tn?1443976780
As you are at College it would be a good idea to speak to a counselor there see what advice they can give you . Sounds like you do need to be away from that environment, how old is your sister ? It is possible you could find a room mate to share the cost of an appt , you say you have no friends have you not joined clubs , sports or other things That would be a good thing in your life and talking to others would help.How about you go to see a Doctor regarding your Mom's condition see if he has any ideas what you can do for your mom..Its a tough one all you can do is really remove your self from the situation unless she will get help ..good luck
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First thing first, you need to seek immediate help through Al Anon for your sister and yourself depending how old she is,  Anon are the families of addicts that understand what you've been through before you even open your' mouth. You don't need to be afraid , you can take your time and listen and see if it helps you and get the norms of any age requirements that there may be, not for you but for your younger sister.  separately or collectively. You can feel safe there to talk or just to listen. Either way, you will feel safer knowing that you are not alone  The next thing I would suggest that you do immediately is to always use the counselor at school whenever there is a problem at home that is too much to handle, and what you've described here is way way far of much too much!!  As the older child i would be interested in your opinion of the foster care system? Did they do a better job than your mom is capable of at this time? Welcome to the forum; I look forward to hearing that you have had some breakthrough of what you are dealing with now. Please, stay strong , and keep making the right decisions to get help with your and your sister's terrible predicament. We await your reply. Stay safe!!
757137 tn?1347196453
What you need is a practical solution. As is often the case, the biggest obstacle in getting free of a mess is lack of money. What about student loans? With student loans and a job you should be able to make it on your own. Ask the school counselor to help you in this regard. If you can't get loans from this college, maybe you can from another one. Anyway, look into it.

How old is your sister? If she is high-school age, perhaps she could live with you and get a part-time job to help out.
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Wow! Thank you, you guys are very helpful I've never gotten to talk to anyone before. Sorry I wasent clear enough " throughout my childhood I was in and out of fostercare due to my mothers abuse, my sister is older-> and very greedy" I've asked for help from her but she hates my mom so much she kinda takes it out on me to. she's all about money. I've never spoken to a councilor on campus and I have tryed to get an apartment but the wouldent accept my low income :/ a roomate would be GREAT but it isn't that easy finding one but I will try harder. I just feel so trapped due to my financial situation and lack of help :/ and I'm so tierd of living this way. While I get out I'd like to also get her help. I have 1 more factor making my life difficult .. I'm a professional model on the side. I've done Americas next top model as well as other shows. I'm
The spokes model for a few big names too but I won't say what to keep my identity a secret. SADLY this all makes NO MONEY ..so fare :( and is costing me money 60$ to drive to LA ... & I go on auditions 1-3x a week :,( I don't want to give up but I'm just not financially stable.
535822 tn?1443976780
Now heres an idea, you drive to LA you probably meet people in your modelling work so how about asking around to see if you can share a appt, I know LA pretty well and show biz I bet there will be many a gal hoping to share some rent..Look in the Classifieds in the LA times .you can look online, put an ad in , if its a big enough app you could go for a threesome to share rent.Some even rent houses and do just that .You could do with getting a wage fro the work you do so that's another avenue to think about .
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I can't even imagine a spokesmodel for "a few big names" doesn't get paid.
3060903 tn?1398565123
I'm very relieved to hear that you don't have to worry about a dependent sister. You dodged a bullet there.  Maybe check for housing around the universities, my son lives in a house where every inch is blocked off , including the living room to keep costs down..using bunk beds etc. You could put a free ad in Craigslist and see if you can get your own little group going.  If it is all that bad dear , why don't you try to get into a homeless shelter, at least you could study and be safe.... i think i would take a chance on a homeless shelter before going through anymore of your mother's nonsense, As i mentioned earlier, I think Al Anon might help, as with any group you're involved with you up the chances of meeting someone who could be of practical results. Maybe someone will help you with lodging out of the goodness of their heart when they hear your story,, maybe even provide better money by giving you a chance at a better job......Drug and Alcohol take all prisoner, wealthy successful people are involved in the Al Anon group too!! In fact , any group involvement would be good for you!! I know you're probably very busy, but please take the time for Al Anon. It is imperative that you start to make  friendship pool, you don't need to be alone. I'm so sorry that your sister is not willing to help you get out of your mother's home, it sounds so selfish. You can't make your mother get, well, but you can continue to tell her what your needs are.....i'm so sorry that she is so sick.....honestly, i would try a homeless shelter and keep going to college....maybe there's some sort of housing that the homeless shelter can suggest..... you're friends here on MedHelp will be rooting for you. Please keep us up to date on your post. If you start another post say that you posting in August before......so you could follow your thread. I think my most important piece of advice is to make a few friends on here. You need some special attention that having a few friends could give to you. All you have to do is put out a person message, and voila you've got a whole new family.  Trust me, it works. You can certainly send a personal message to me and i'll answer. You are in my thoughts and prayers. I'm sorry you have to go through this..please try and make a change asap.
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I'm sorry I really don't need any sarcasm :( im already on edge here. And yeah this industry *****. You hardly get paid anything.dident even get paid a dime for top model
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Yes I plan to as soon as I can. Only issue is I still have 2 years left of college before I can leave this city so for now I have to stay
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Thank you so much I will definutly check them out as soon as I can. It's just hard to tell people this kind of stuff. but it just feels so good to be abile to talk about it. I will put out a craigslist add and check out that group you mention. homeless shelter is not a good idea because of my known name in this city and my mothers crazy ex lives there :/
Thank u Sooo much and thank you for the friend request
535822 tn?1443976780
So you have to stay well then all you can do is avoid confrontation with your mom, steer clear when you can and don't be drawn into any conflict with her , if he yells walk quietly  away.You could always try being super nice to her , see what happens , tell her how the yelling affects you .best of luck it will all work out you are in but a moment of time ....
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