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Do you think I am getting it??
My abusive son (youngest) last month called asking for 5,000.00 then yells at what a lousy mother I am, and hung up in my face. Last night he texted me to borrow 2,000. I text back right away "Not doing business with you" He texts back.......ok....
I think before this forum I would have crumbled to pieces. Seriously! Listening to wisdoms of people, obviously credible people, has helped me. I think. Don't you?
You have a power here to change the world!
I think before this forum I would have crumbled to pieces. Seriously! Listening to wisdoms of people, obviously credible people, has helped me. I think. Don't you?
You have a power here to change the world!
THE BANK IS CLOSED!!! Good for you, they may be pissed off for awhile, but they will have to fend for themselves, poor babies!
Great Question! And I bet I know the answer!! He not only abuses me but all his girlfriends and ex's. You know the guy? Anyway. He was married once and hit her and the baby so she moved on (adopted my grandbaby to her new husband) Next married started yelling and keeping tension around so I'm not sure what the deal is but I think he is wanting attorney money to fight her so he doesn't have to pay for this child either. Plus he got a girl pregnant in high school and she let him out of paying for that son either. So he knows I am a nurse and make good money. Plus I think your right he thinks I owe him something. Thank you for reading this and making me think about it all. Its a place to put things (this forum). Thank you
What in the world would he need that kind of money for?Sound's like he think's you owe him something.I would do what everyone here has said.The drink for sure:)Good luck!Kitty
I gave my 25 year old son a place to stay after his girlfriend went back to her husband.He didn't have a job,a pot to pee in,or a window to throw it out of.He started becoming very abusive,and trying to drag me down.Remember,I am the one paying the bills.I ended up getting a exparte' on him,and a 3ed degree assault charge.Now he has to comply with the rules of probation and parole in Missouri.He is no longer in my house.That said,it has been the hardest thing I have ever done.Thank God,and my church friends for helping me,but this is still not easy.I fight the pain in my heart,and my mind,everyday
I remember your earlier post and am so glad that you have taken our advice. It would be nice if he developed respect for you, but perhaps, more importantly, you have developed respect for yourself. Feels great, doesn't it?
Your doing the right thing by ignoring his phone call. At 27 years old he needs to grow up. I have a 38 year old daughter and she didn't grow up until her father and I started using tough love. Treat him like any other grown up that is giving you a hard time. After all he is an adult now, not a teenager that needs watching all the time. It will take some time until he gets the hint. I have a friend that is going through the same thing with her 33 year old daughter. She started using tough love and the daughter is slowly backing off. Good luck and keep up the good work. Believe me, next he'll be knocking on your door. Don't give in. Next he'll start saying you don't love him any more and we know that isn't true.
Let him take an abusive stand, it's like a "BIG BOY" temper tantrum, time for him to grow up!!
Good for you, not caving in with these spoiled brats.
Good for you, not caving in with these spoiled brats.
This son is (lets see..he was born in 83) I think he is 27. He has been the son who enjoyed the privilege of my money and time the most. As the youngest son he has taken an abusive stand against me. He blames me for everything. Thank you for responding.
narla is right you are doing pretty well, dont respond to him unless he is kind to you ...no more giving him money ...
It's great that you are learning to stand up for yourself,you deserve respect,we all do
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