Surviving Abuse as a man

[E_Guy]

Hello I have been married for 8 years, and my wife has continued to become violent in the last 2 years.  It started out with a remote control to the head, and has escalated into punching, kicking, and assualting me with a knife.  I will not hit a woman, so I usually try and run away when she becomes violent.  She also tells me that she is now attracted to women sexually, and that she can see dead people and things that I can't see.  She is very successful in her day job, and does not display any of these behaviours at work.  She also thinks she is better than everyone else, and has these crazy mood swings that can happen in less than 5 minutes.  I never know what kind of mood she is in, and am always trying to please her so she doesn't become angry.  I do all the housework, bills, laundry, cooking, shopping, and everything else it takes to support our home.  I also have a full time job and make good money.  I don't understand why I feel like I can't do anything right anymore, and when she is violent, she makes me feel like it's my fault.  She engages is binge drinking occasionally, and doesn't let me have contact with my friends and family.  She also calls me like 20 times a day, and is always paranoid I am doing something I'm not.  I have never cheated on her, and don't understand why she is like this in the last two years.  I tried to get her into marital counseling but she refuses to go.  I am ready to leave her because I can't live like this anymore.  I also have health problems, and she doesn't care.  I just want to know what is wrong with her.  She is abusive emotionally, and physically, and has done some really weird and dangerous stuff lately like drinking and driving.  I also just caught her puking up her food after binge eating on several occasions.  Any advise I could get on what's wrong with her would really help.  I am desparate for answers.

[Danieltroy]

I know where your coming from.  My ex still haunts me. If you do leave her I suggest leaving the state. She is a control freak. So when you do make your move, make it absolutely secret.  You will feel bad at first and lonely. But I did get lucky, she left me first. I was pitiful for least two months straight. I pulled myself together one night, i screamed to the top of my lungs while lying in bed sleepless(I'm better off without her) over and over, louder and louder. When I stopped, this tingely calm came over me from head to toe. And a smile crept onto my face. After that I was good. Met a woman, my wife now and I am happier than ever.  Reason why I say leave town is because my ex sees how happy I am and she trys her best to ruin it. But its really up to you.

[jo929]

NO one has to put up with abuse, they can leave if they can walk  luck  jo

[margypops]

Reading your thread it does sound as if she needs some help the best way  would be to ask your Doctor how to go about getting her some one to talk to  you sound as if you care ,Good Luck

[AnnaE]

No questions.

If you cared deeply about your wife and thought that there is value in the relationship, you could guide her to mental health services. If you think you are finished, seek counseling to confirm this and to find out what divorce is about. There is a mental health expert forum.

[RockRose]

Okay,  E Guy, what's up?

I just went to your profile and three hours ago you posted that you had divorced her.

What's this about "ready to leave her"?

[RockRose]

Do you have any children?  

If not,  it's time to leave.