First some background. My parents were never perfect. My mom and dad both drank to much and fought because of it when I was little. Then my mom quit for my brother and me she threatened my dad that she would leave him and he quit. That was when I was probably 7-12. They have always been open with me and I later found out my dad enjoyed doing acid in his teen and early twenties. They both had cocaine issues in the past. Both of them still smoke bud. My mom is Bi-polar, and I believe my dad has suffered with depression forever.
NOW I am 36 and my parents seemed past their addictions until two years ago. My mom started fighting with my dad all the time. I haven't lived with them since I was 15 and assumed it had to be her bi-polar and his depression from losing his dad. Things got really bad about 1yr and half ago. She was losing it fully and my dad just always seemed angry. That is when my sister in law who lives with them reached out for help. My brother didn't want her to, but she couldn't take it anymore. Her, my brother and their two kids live with my parents. The fighting between my parents had gotten so bad that they couldn't be outside of their rooms because they never knew when my parents would allow the fighting to flow into the living room.
After talking to her I realized there was a lot of signs that my parents might have fallen into some of their old ways. However, we never got around to doing anything about it. Things seemed a lot better about a month later. It seemed ok for the most part until July of this year. At which time my dad found out his older brother had cancer. They began to fight often again and my mom seemed like she was losing her mind. Up until this month I assumed it was just her Bi-polar and my dads depression over his brother.
Saturday though my sister in law called again to let me know that if things didn't get better at their home and my brother wouldn't move...she would be leaving to Dallas with the kids. She let me know that my parents were starting to show signs they were on something. My mom had blisters on her lips, they would both be up late hours of the night and hyper and getting along so well. Then in the mornings they would be fighting. She also noticed that these behaviors revolved around their paychecks. My brother and her had found baggies too. When I look back I know my dad seemed more talkative at times and they like to come to visit super late. My mom and him would be fighting during the day and my mom always seemed lost. She would repeat the same story over and over again. I believe they can be on Coca.
Here is where the question comes in. Should I confront my mom, and if so how? My sister in law says my brother has tried and my dad just gets mad and my mom tells them they don't know what they are talking about. My brother told my sister in law he cant talk to our parents but doesn't want to leave them because they wont make it on their own. Me, personally I don't know how to confront them either. I love my mom but I left because I couldn't be around her 24/7. I know my dad wont hear us out. WHAT ARE WE TO DO?
I am mainly concerned for my sister in law and my brother's relationship. I told her straight out I don't blame her if she leaves. However, I feel the same way my brother does that my parents wont make it on their own. WHAT TO DO, and how TO HANDLE This?